angelbird Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 for me and I think thats the problem. Theres no excitement anymore and this is my only real gripe about our relationship, but its a big one to me at this point. I love him and I dont want to hurt him, and hes always been there for me no matter what. I was in an accident and he cared for me the entire time when no one else cared and even took on a financial burden as well and he was just only out of college. So I feel guilty about wanting to end things. Ive also been talking to this guy on Facebook recently that he doesnt know about. This guy is so funny and cocky, I cant help but feel attracted to him even if he does seem somewhat aloof towards me at times. I think im attracted to this and I feel horrible about it. I need advice.
TaraMaiden Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 Why, why, why, why, why? Why is it when this happens - Theres no excitement anymore....So I feel guilty about wanting to end things. There's always, but always something like this - Ive also been talking to this guy on Facebook recently that he doesnt know about. - as the kicker? Let me ask you a question: How did you feel about your BF before this guy appeared on FB? I mean, really? This bad? Somewhat better? A lot worse? be honest now.....
lemonlegs Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 Many girls feed into that "girls like jerks" stereotype. It's natural... you're attracted to someone who's new and exciting and isn't at your beck and call and doesn't fawn over you all the time. Those are good qualities in a crush, sure, but in a boyfriend? Listen, I can't tell you how to feel. And if you genuinely don't love your boyfriend anymore, then no one can say anything to change that. However, don't let the allure of this guy you're talking to on Facebook influence your decision. "Cocky" is NOT a trait you want in a boyfriend... before you know it you'll be complaining of him not being affectionate towards you or flirting with other women or acting like he's too good for you. You make it sound like you and your boyfriend get along well, he's there for you, and he's overall a good guy. So, what's your complaint? That he's not "cocky" enough? Think long and hard about whether or not you'd really want a boyfriend who's cocky.... sure, confidence is a turn-on but cockiness can lead to problems. Think about it.
Woggle Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 You will only learn the hard way so let your bf go and dive in head first with Mr Cocky. He will have a good time with you.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 Wow you sure opened a can of worms. Sure, relationships can go stale but if you're complaining your bf is not exciting enough, the obvious problem isn't him but you.
Nexus One Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 You will only learn the hard way so let your bf go and dive in head first with Mr Cocky. He will have a good time with you. For some people the best way to learn that fire is hot is to burn themselves. I'm wondering if OP isn't a troll though. Just one post and it's a "dump the nice guy thread". I generally avoid those "nice guy" threads, because people seem to keep going in circles there.
Cee Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 I think you are suffering from the "grass is greener syndrome." It's one thing to want to leave your boyfriend because there is a flaw in the relationship, but jumping to a new man isn't that healthy. Pursuing this other guy is likely to blow up in your face. But I say, by all means leave your nice boyfriend and pursue this other guy. I think deep in your heart you know this other guy isn't that great. Liking this arrogant, aloof guy is safe because there's no way he's going to amount to anything but a brief dalliance. Then he'll ditch you and you'll be single, which is something you might actually want. A chance to be alone and grow. I hope I don't come across as harsh because I have a lot of compassion for you. Ending a perfectly fine relationship to be alone isn't something that is all that popular in romantic movies or fairy tales. How dare a woman ditch the prince to ride off in the sunset all by herself. Now if I'm wrong and you do enjoy your relationship, then mix it up with your man and get the passion back.
Cee Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 I got pulled in by a troll. Bummer. Tried to edit away my post, but it's stuck here. My apologies for being gullible.
Woggle Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 I know some women love to knock players on here and I don't condone it either but let's ask a question. Who is in a better position right now? Her boyfriend or the cocky guy on facebook?
Mrlonelyone Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 This may be a troll thread.... But women do say things not tooo different from what this troll says all too often. The whole "nice guy" thing started somewhere. Those bitter nice guys... are almost always genuinely nice guys who were taken advantage of or cheated on.... just like most jaded women were also screwed over. It's only natural that once screwed over one might be a little prickly for a while after that.
Woggle Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 It might be a troll but some relationships really do end up like this.
TaraMaiden Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 Any post with "facebook" in it will only end in tears.....
fishtaco Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 It might be a troll but some relationships really do end up like this. I agree. I think this is a troll too. But this scenario is very common.
somedude81 Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 What's your BF phone number? I'm going to tell him to start getting rough with you. You won't think he's too nice after that
Ay Diesel T Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 What's your BF phone number? I'm going to tell him to start getting rough with you. You won't think he's too nice after that Lol! Like those women that are always saying "I want a rough neck man!" Then dude decks her in the face during an argument, yeah...we all see how quickly her preferences change. Lmao, women.
dreamingoftigers Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 Let's play the "maybe it's not a troll game." OP, your boyfriend's role in your relationship I'd not to provide you with endless humor and entertainment like done kind of court jester. Your expectations are extremely flawed if you don't think that you will have time if boredom with anyone you are with. Those are when you season your own reserves and try to take responsibility and change up the dynamic of your relationship. If you aren't mature enough to desk with boredom, it will cause problems all over your adult life such as your career and children aside from your relationships. Figure out why you figure you are entitled to all of this, especially after someone has shown you strength of character by caring for you so well when you were perhaps not as fun as usual.
TaraMaiden Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 Actually, at this juncture, I was refering to NYMetFan.....
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