blackmagik Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 Ladies, what kinds of gifts would you find appropriate for a girl whom you have been dating for less than two months, but talking with and getting to know for about four months? I definitely want to do something, I don't want to go overboard but I also don't want to go too little.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 Cards are overrated and jewelery is too flashy. Maybe a cellphone key chain or a plushy doll. Note: because I am Asian I tend to like very cute things. What does your girlfriend like? http://areyouaniceguy.com/collections/plush I recommend the matching awkward turtle and keychain but the awkward octopus is cute too. You'll be happy to know portions of proceeds will go to charity, so buy away.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 Oh and no clothes. You'll only be setting yourself for failure if she doesn't like the tshirt you got her and she wants to return it.
Author blackmagik Posted March 2, 2011 Author Posted March 2, 2011 Well I would never get her clothes, that is never a good idea for a gift for a significant other. I have already got her a stuff animal as more of an inside joke, so that is out of the question. Any other suggestions? I am not against spending money on her I just don't want to go overboard. She is really hard to read, I don't really know what she would want. I'm guessing I probably couldn't go wrong, but I am a perfectionist so I will worry about it.
TaraMaiden Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 There's very little you can get her that won't have a yin/yang side-message; Voucher for beauty treatment? I think you deserve to be pampered. you look like crap, you need a make-over. Clothes? I love your body, so this *item* shows me how good you look You have crap taste in clothes, try this instead. Evening meal? I just really want to eat you, not the food.. Whatever you choose will show me how much you care about your body.... Flowers? You're so beautiful, i just wanted to show how dull these are by comparison. I have no idea what you like, so I'll go for the safe option Jewellery? look how expensive this is! Look how cheap you are! basically, you're screwed whatever you do!!
heartshaped Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 Has she mentioned anything in passing that she would like or is there any hobby that she has that you could maybe get her something in relation to that?
Author blackmagik Posted March 2, 2011 Author Posted March 2, 2011 Hmm.. well maybe a better question is what gifts have you ladies received that you thought were absolutely perfect. Or as close to perfect as you could get... ??
Author blackmagik Posted March 2, 2011 Author Posted March 2, 2011 Has she mentioned anything in passing that she would like or is there any hobby that she has that you could maybe get her something in relation to that? Nope, and I'm extremely observant so I would have totally caught it. She never says anything she likes. She did mention she needs more art for house, and complimented some of mine.. I just don't think that is a very safe play.
TaraMaiden Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 There is of course, another option.... Why not actually tell her you'd like to get her a little something, but you're not sure what she'd enjoy.... ? Maybe she could give you some clues and you could go out togeyher to get her something nice? (This also gives you further insights into her character, temperament, and valuation of where you two are going with this.....)...?
Eeyore79 Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 What about costume jewelry? Most women love wearing stuff that their man has given them. You can get some nice pieces for about $20-30, so it's not too extravagant. Maybe a nice necklace or bracelet? Get a female friend to help you pick out something pretty from one of the high street stores, and put it in a nice box with some colored tissue paper.
Author blackmagik Posted March 2, 2011 Author Posted March 2, 2011 What about costume jewelry? Most women love wearing stuff that their man has given them. You can get some nice pieces for about $20-30, so it's not too extravagant. Maybe a nice necklace or bracelet? Get a female friend to help you pick out something pretty from one of the high street stores, and put it in a nice box with some colored tissue paper. This is very difficult for some reason. Maybe I can pry some information out of her. The problem with that is being so close to her birthday she will sense me trying to get information from her and wont say anything. She is the type that would rather not get anything from anyone and "burden" them, even though I love to get her things and treat her.
xpaperxcutx Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 This is very difficult for some reason. Maybe I can pry some information out of her. The problem with that is being so close to her birthday she will sense me trying to get information from her and wont say anything. She is the type that would rather not get anything from anyone and "burden" them, even though I love to get her things and treat her. Absolutely no jewelry of any sort unless you guys are dating seriously. I associate jewelry with commitment and endearment, and if I have to buy jewelry, I usually buy gold ( 14- 18 kt). Besides, you don't even know if she's allergic to certain types of metals or not. Costume jewelry is tacky unless she bought it for herself. Avoid the need buy things she would " wear' because you're not familiar with her style.
810 Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 Hmm.. well maybe a better question is what gifts have you ladies received that you thought were absolutely perfect. Or as close to perfect as you could get... ?? for me it was the four-course candle lit dinner he made and we watched a movie together at home. the flowers and card were beautiful too. it was nice, cozy and thoughtful.
Kamille Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 what gifts have you ladies received that you thought were absolutely perfect. Or as close to perfect as you could get... ?? I'm a sucker for flowers, especially when they're delivered. Bf once sent them to my office, and, last Valentine, had them delivered at my place. I never expect them and am always overjoyed by them. I don't expect them because he'll usually also have a "special" date planned (theather, fancy dinner), which I usual assume is the gift. If your girl is decorating (ie, looking for more than art), you could pick out a nice decorative vase to go along with the flower purchase.
xpaperxcutx Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 Hmm.. well maybe a better question is what gifts have you ladies received that you thought were absolutely perfect. Or as close to perfect as you could get... ?? I go with special more than perfect. Most girls don't care about perfect " gifts" they care more about feeling special. Gifts only adds to it. Let's say you buy a small gift, tiny yet significant, and then you spend the rest of the day doing things she would love.
Author blackmagik Posted March 2, 2011 Author Posted March 2, 2011 I'm actually pretty familiar with her style, but I still wouldn't want to buy her jewelry or clothes. It is something a little more personal for her. I also agree with papercut, jewelry is something that is much more serious than we currently are at. Since it really isn't a serious ltr yet as we have only been dating for a few months. It could get to that point very soon though. So spa is out of the questions because she doesn't like people touch her other than people she wants to touch her.. if that makes sense. Would it be selfish to get her a gift that would involve both of us? I have never got a significant other a gift that involved me, for that very reason. I didn't think it was special enough.
Kamille Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 Would it be selfish to get her a gift that would involve both of us? I have never got a significant other a gift that involved me, for that very reason. I didn't think it was special enough. I think the gift BF most appreciated (that I got him), was when I got theater tickets to go see a play that was getting rave reviews in town. Of course we went together. I had also gotten him a leather paper-case - but while he still uses the case, he beams when he talks about the play. It was special because it was a play that we'd usually consider to be outside of our budget.
810 Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 Would it be selfish to get her a gift that would involve both of us? I have never got a significant other a gift that involved me, for that very reason. I didn't think it was special enough. Nope, I don't think it would be selfish to do so. My ex and I once took a trip together. Not only we had fun together but we got to spend time and getting to know each other more as well.
Lilmisus Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 I'm actually pretty familiar with her style, but I still wouldn't want to buy her jewelry or clothes. It is something a little more personal for her. I also agree with papercut, jewelry is something that is much more serious than we currently are at. Since it really isn't a serious ltr yet as we have only been dating for a few months. It could get to that point very soon though. So spa is out of the questions because she doesn't like people touch her other than people she wants to touch her.. if that makes sense. Would it be selfish to get her a gift that would involve both of us? I have never got a significant other a gift that involved me, for that very reason. I didn't think it was special enough. No, definitely no jewelry or clothes, unless you know something specific she likes. One thing that you could do: why don't you ask her to go shopping with you for a female family member's birthday, and just say that you need a female opinion, and who better to help than her? You always want to go with a personal gift, and nothing that screams: "I got this for every girl before you, and you're just like them." Some ideas if you don't want to ask her or include her at all. Most of these are free or cheap, but if they come from the heart, it's so much better than anything expensive: Make her a card - a homemade card that shows you sat down and truly thought out what you would say/put on it, is an amazing key to a girls heart. It's something that she'll always treasure, even if y'all don't work out in the end. Include some memories, inside jokes, cute drawings, etc. Make her a mixed CD or buy her some CDs of any artists that you know she loves - Once again, shows it comes from the heart if it's a mixed CD, and if you buy a CD it shows that you know what she enjoys. Make her a photo frame or memory box that includes something that reminds her of how much you care about her. Buy some tickets to a show in town if you know that's something she'd enjoy. Arrange a candle lit dinner (doesn't necessarily have to be on her birthday, especially if she has plans with the girls or family members) and cook (or attempt to) her favorite meal. Buy some artwork for her that looks like something she might enjoy. Buy a teddy bear with a cute message on it Buy her favorite flowers - don't just go with red roses because that's too cliche. Get her a purse if she's a purse person - get a female's perspective on it first, and have someone help you buy it if you do. There are soooo many ideas that you can go with, it just depends on who she is and who you are and what it means to you. But remember to have it come from the heart and make sure whatever you go with that you'll be just as excited to give it to her as you hope she'll be to receive it. Also: NEVER go with not getting her anything..ever. I just had to throw that in
Author blackmagik Posted March 3, 2011 Author Posted March 3, 2011 No, definitely no jewelry or clothes, unless you know something specific she likes. Also: NEVER go with not getting her anything..ever. I just had to throw that in Great suggestions! I would never go without getting her anything. Hence why I posted here. I have always been lucky with the girls I have been dating that their birthdays fell after I had been dating them for much longer so I was able to get something more to their liking. I don't think I can get flowers either, I already got her those a few days before Valentines Day (didn't want her to be getting things on the cliche holiday).. She did mention she normally didn't like getting flowers but she liked getting them from me, which she thought was weird.
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