Enlighten_ME Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 Thanks in advance for reading my post. My first time posting here so take it easy on me. Me and Girlfriend have been together for over a year now. And as time has gone by there has been things on both sides that has cause the waters to get a little rocky. My Girlfriend is an extremely sensitive person. She often gets upset with me for saying the wrong thing or not being generally interested in what she is talking about, which is understandable. During the course of our relationship when she has gotten upset with me she would threaten to leave me. Typically followed by a list of things i needed to "work on". I would agree and genuinely try to work on them so she i could keep her in my life. There has been instances of her telling little white lies about past relationships, and one really heart breaking one in regards to her ex husband, which even after i found she lied when i questioned her about it. Granted this was pretty early in. Now i am struggling with the way she shows me love and affection. And it makes me honestly feel like she doesn't love me. I guess i kinda validate love through ones affections , and i have discussed this many many times and it gets better for a bit it goes back to normal. Let me describe. I shower her with affection and compliments, and she will get upset when it stops. Her Idea of showing me physical affection is to get close to me. Close enough where i can give her affection. We don't really kiss during sex and its not very sensual and connected by her choice. It seems to be more of a means of getting off than connecting. If i get upset with her , she will turn and twist it until she feels like i should apologize. For Valentines day, I took her out to a nice restruant and to a Orchid exhibit with dancing and drinks. I wanted it to be a romantic night, but after the dancing at the exhibit was over, she insisted we visit a hole in the ground techno club. She insisted even after her i told her i was developing a bit of a headache. Needless to say it turned out to be not such a great night. There are other things that really just take me aback, and make me wonder how can someone that loves me be completely selfish. i could go on and on but to cut it short.. Could this woman really love me? Or is this relationship satisfying another facet of her life.
max2go Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 i had a similar experience a few years ago, this woman is hangin in there but it doesnt sound like it will go anywhere at all, from what you describe, you are wasting your time and energy which is very debilitating emotionally and physically - though i know myself how hard it is when you really like someone a lot, you havent been together that long so perhaps you should make a list of the positives and negatives of the relationship and make up your mind what to do - then do it! I am in no position to say that except i know how remaining in a non harmonious relationship can destroy you. Dont let it happen mate!
Author Enlighten_ME Posted February 26, 2011 Author Posted February 26, 2011 Thanks Max. I tried to talk to her again this evening about it, and she became explosive. She accused me of putting her down and making her feel worthless. I guess i can add playing the victim on top of everything else. She packed up some clothes and took off, and haven't heard from her. And i am not about to budge this time.. Thanks again.
max2go Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 Thanks Max. I tried to talk to her again this evening about it, and she became explosive. She accused me of putting her down and making her feel worthless. I guess i can add playing the victim on top of everything else. She packed up some clothes and took off, and haven't heard from her. And i am not about to budge this time.. Thanks again. ......................good for you mate:)
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