How to deal with the "anger" that comes with the breakup.

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Hello again everyone,

 

Well overall i have really turned a corner, and have been on the final stages of getting through all of this, things have become a lot clearer..

 

An incident though from a little while ago (http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t261141/) has been weighing heavy on me though for the past few days, for the first time ive actually been kind of angry at this incident, like to the point of ruining some of my off time.

 

Basically in an nut shell, she told a girl im talking to (that used to be her friend) that i was basically choosing her because i couldnt get her (my ex) back. What it really was, was her jealous because this girl was hanging out with me in a few days and my ex heard about it.

 

I said nothing and time went by, i had to email her about something unrelated and was putting it off because of what she said. I ended up doing it, and about a week after she messaged me basically saying whats up, then said she knows im "pissed" about what she said to my friend but had to say it because it was the truth, even though i never made any mention of it. Long story but me and my ex were in kind of a secret thing so a lot of people didnt know, she was saying this was her way of "getting it off her chest so she didnt look like a bad friend to her".

 

So i know that she did it because she was jealous, she started the conversation with my friend like "where are you going tomm?", so that was the proof. But the fact that she told me it was just about telling the "truth" makes me furious.

 

I know that if i read the messages (which my friend told me i could but i didnt on purpose) i would see all of her lies. So basically, she lied to my friend to make herself look good, then lied to me to smooth it over.

 

This is so immature and i find myself almost fuming about it some days, but its weird because its random, and i have literally been doing so much better.

 

I guess in general, wanted to see what you guys do as far as dealing with the "anger" when you are not in contact with the person...?

 

Obviously if i was talking to her i could "vent" but there is no point, and it would just get put back on me. Anger and aggrivation are strong emotions, and hard to hold in, so let me know how every one deals with it!

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