XEnglishRoseX Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 I was with my ex for 5 years, we split after a series of arguments. It was kind of my idea because I felt really fed up, but when I asked him if it was what he wanted he said yes. So it was a mutual agreement basically. Since the split I have contacted him once to congratulate him on passing his driving test, he replied saying how are you and thanks, so I said I was good and that I was really pleased for him. I didn't ask him how he was because I didn't want to seem like I was over keen as it was only a week after splitting, and he didn't send me another text after that. I had already told him when we talked that I wasn't sure breaking up was the right decision but he said he didn't want to continue making me unhappy and arguing all the time. It's been a week since the text so 2 weeks since we broke up and I can honestly say I miss him for all the right reasons. It's not because I feel abandoned/can't cope on my own, I know I can and have been. I've kept busy, I've seen all my friends, and I've tried to enjoy life. I feel like there's a huge part of me missing though, we were together since the age of 15 were now both 20 so he was like my best friend. I would really like to give the relationship another go BUT... Since we have split up he's made no effort to contact me, apart from when I text him. He has added female friends he knows I never liked on facebook and another girl who has a boyfriend, but shortly before we split I saw her name in his recent text list but no texts?? I asked him about it and he said he hadn't text her. I believed him as he seemed really sincere. She is also his best mates sister, a quite attractive sister tho so not sure what to think there. He has given me reason to doubt him as at the beginning of our relationship he kissed another girl, and text another couple behind my back. He has been faithful to me ever since and not given me reason to doubt him. He always told me how much he loved me, every single day right up until the day we split. I want to get in contact and ask him to meet up but I don't know if this is the right thing to do. The way he's behaved is not giving me much encouragement to do so. I feel like I could be missing the boat though if I don't just come out with how I feel. My mum thinks I should wait for him to call me, and I wouldn't want to put him off me or for him to feel like I can't cope without him because I don't want him to loose respect for me. I just keep dreaming about him and I think of him everyday, I would love to work it out, but obviously this won't happen if it's not what he wants. Could anyone give me some advice? I would hate to make the wrong decision and end up feeling worse or ruining my chances Thanks (By the way, most of the arguments were only petty ones, the main one that lead to the split was that he chose to go out with his mates valentines weekend instead of taking me out)
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