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Meeting with the ex - good or bad idea?


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I have a provisional meeting with the ex (she ended it 2 months ago, 3 weeks NC) set up for Sunday and I'm wondering whether or not it's a good idea. She is still pretty torn/confused and I know her feelings for me are still strong. She said the last two months have been the worst of her life.

 

She has been saying a lot of stuff including:

 

"I'm scared that if we were to give it another go things would be how they were and we would have to break up again because I dont want to go through this again."

 

"I dont know what I want. That is the honest truth. I can't be more honest."

 

"I dont know whether the pain is just too raw for me to feel positive about the future."

 

"I wonder if I have to get over you first, and stop missing you, and then I'll know what's left."

 

"But I also know Im in too much of a state to know how much of what I feel is missing you, and how much of my unhappiness in the relationship could be resolved."

 

I get from this that getting back probably isn't on the cards any time soon, But am I wrong to think that with some positive influence from me and us exploring the options together in this meeting, there may be a chance she slowly changes her mind about us? I messed up in our RS and I've thought about little else. I genuinely think I could give it a much better go, and with it much improved chances of happiness, second time round.

Edited by runforafall
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