xomotoxgirlxo Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 Both me and my boyfriend have Facebook and I find myself checking his Facebook on a regular basis just to see who he's talking to and adding as a friend. More than half the people he's friends with are people he knows/people I know, but on occasion I see he has become friends with girls in particular that I don't think he really knows. Sometimes I will ask who they are and the majority of the time he will say: "I thought they were one of your friends," or he will get mad at me. For example, he just recently became friends with some girl that is wayyy younger than us and I had asked him about it and he said it was his friends girlfriend. So I did some research and found out that his friend he mentioned was dating someone completely different. So I brought it up with him and mentioned the name of the girl he added and he said he didn't know who that was and then proceeded to get mad at me for "caring about who he adds." He never asks me about who I add. Is it wrong to wonder why he adds girls he doesn't know?
wbr4p Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 yeah i agree it sucks. but i always think if a guy is gonna cheat, hes gonna cheat. of course facebook or other social sites make it more easy. also soem guys just add whatever whoever without thinking too much into it. altho i can safely say i have seen a lot of flirting comnig from other girls on a guys facebook, or comments on his wall.
phineas Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 Social networking is a just a tool. Don't blame it. Blame the tool using the tool to be shady.
TigerCub Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 Social networking is a just a tool. Don't blame it. Blame the tool using the tool to be shady. Agreed! Facebook, craigslist, the internet in general may make it easier to cheat, but the person has to be shady and willing to cheat to begin with. Your boyfriend doesn't ask you who you add to your facebook because he doesn't care - but maybe if you start adding random hotties to your page, he'll wonder. I do think that your constant questioning of his facebook friends is annoying, but he shouldn't be lying to you about the people either. It seems to me like you have trust issues with him before all that stuff - because why would you be checking who he adds to facebook in the first place?
Mme. Chaucer Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 I LOVE Facebook. It has made connecting with people I am interested in, like high school mates, old co workers, people who share my hobby / lifestyle all over the world, pleasant and easy. I really like being able to see what is going on in their lives, look at their families, etc. Many of these people, for various reasons, I would not ever call on the phone for a chat. Same for my boyfriend. I think that most of the social networking relationship "problems" are reflections of problems with the people involved.
HeavenOrHell Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 Saying social networking can destroy r/ships is like saying guns cause murder to happen, social networks and guns are harmless, it's the people involved who cause the problems. Social networks merely gives cheaters more opportunities to cheat. Your bf is either annoyed with you because he is trustworthy and is hurt that you don't trust him, or he's wanting to cheat and is annoyed you've sussed him, you're the only one who knows him well enough to know if he's capable of cheating. If he was adding only women he knew, you'd still worry. I add males and females I don't know if we've got several friends in common and very similar interests, I have no intention of cheating though, I'm just networking. Both me and my boyfriend have Facebook and I find myself checking his Facebook on a regular basis just to see who he's talking to and adding as a friend. More than half the people he's friends with are people he knows/people I know, but on occasion I see he has become friends with girls in particular that I don't think he really knows. Sometimes I will ask who they are and the majority of the time he will say: "I thought they were one of your friends," or he will get mad at me. For example, he just recently became friends with some girl that is wayyy younger than us and I had asked him about it and he said it was his friends girlfriend. So I did some research and found out that his friend he mentioned was dating someone completely different. So I brought it up with him and mentioned the name of the girl he added and he said he didn't know who that was and then proceeded to get mad at me for "caring about who he adds." He never asks me about who I add. Is it wrong to wonder why he adds girls he doesn't know?
mtber75 Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 (edited) I LOVE Facebook. It has made connecting with people I am interested in, like high school mates, old co workers, people who share my hobby / lifestyle all over the world, pleasant and easy. I really like being able to see what is going on in their lives, look at their families, etc. Many of these people, for various reasons, I would not ever call on the phone for a chat. Same for my boyfriend. I think that most of the social networking relationship "problems" are reflections of problems with the people involved. Absolutely agree...I don't understand people who said social networking sites can break up a relationship? I had friend who's bf didn't like her chatting online on sites like facebook...major insecurity issues there! Edited February 25, 2011 by mtber75
Author xomotoxgirlxo Posted February 25, 2011 Author Posted February 25, 2011 Okay, maybe my headline wasn't the greatest, just at the time it's how I felt. I just know Facebook can add unnecessary fights from time to time (like how I am overreacting about who he's adding.) My boyfriend was cheated on by his ex of 3 1/2 years and I think it severally effected him so I don't think he would cheat. I never see girls talking to him on his page, so I guess there is really nothing to worry about. However, he just recently started working graveyard and I know he spends a lot more time on Facebook and chats with people, because he's told me this. So it makes me wonder who he's talking to. And yes, he probably does get angry with me because he is being trustworthy and I am questioning him.
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