How did my boyfriend move on so fast, and I can't even forget him! ?

[LindseyPainter]

Me and my boyfriend (now ex boyfriend) have been dating on and off for a year.The first time we broke up was over me being on vacation and him having trust issues and him wanting me to come home early so we decided we wouldn't talk for awhile .Well then he got with another girl very quick about two weeks later. I couldn't believe when I got back from my vacation and got on Facebook and saw a picture of him with another girl so soon i couldn't believe he was acting like nothing ever happened.Well while they were dating his new girlfriend added me on Facebook and also called me a whore I found this a little strange because I didn't even know the girl but i figured he had told her about me

 

.After they had been dating for around four months or so he contacted me over a text message. I asked about him and his girlfriend and he said that he wasn't happy and he acted like he didn't want to be in the relationship with her anymore he was also telling me how sorry he was that we broke up and calling me on the phone to talk.Well soon after that they broke up and we got back together he told me he never really got over me and that he still loved me.

 

Well then we broke up again the second time was because we were arguing over his trust issues and then he said the thing he knew would hurt me the most he told me that he he would never get over his ex so i broke up with him. Then he moved on really fast again he seemed a little sad for awhile because I would see on his Facebook where he would say he couldn't sleep and that his life sucked . but anyways then he said that he was happy with a new girl and that he hoped he wouldn't mess it up and so my question is how does he move on so fast? he even tried to get his ex back after we broke up and how can he move on so fast? He even had asked me to marry him and then just forgot all about me. he changes his mind so much he told me that he is bipolar. Also my other question is do you think he will try to come back again like he did the last time? I am just hurting so bad I can not even go a day without thinking about him I just feel numb i just hope he comes back and also its been a month since we last talked.Please help!!

[paiger]

Seems like your dealing with a guy who simply just jumps from girl to girl. Guys do that sometimes... When they feel rejected, they'll find the need to validate themselves by finding other girls quickly. In your case, he's going to his ex's just because there's some sort of "comfort" level and security, you know?

 

And he may come back to you again... But why would you want to be with a guy like that? I understand how it feels to be inlove with someone. Your sort of blinded by all their flaws. But just some advice from an outside perspective, he seems like a really unstable guy with his feelings. If he does come back, it's just a matter of asking yourself if you want to deal with this cycle again. And if he doesn't, honestly you're probably better off anyways.

[paiger]

Oh also, trust me... that feeling your feeling right now. It will pass. I promise I felt unbelievably ****ty, I literally felt like I didn't know what to do with my life when me and my ex broke up. I thought the apocalypse literally came. But yeah.. hate to whip this quote out but time really will ease the pain.

[Movingthrough]

Seems like your dealing with a guy who simply just jumps from girl to girl. Guys do that sometimes... When they feel rejected, they'll find the need to validate themselves by finding other girls quickly. In your case, he's going to his ex's just because there's some sort of "comfort" level and security, you know?

 

Thats funny because i feel the same about females, i guess we all do it. My ex goes from guy to guy trying to make herself feel better, me, i cant do that.

 

To be honest (and im a guy), this guy has issues. I have a few friends who are PsyD and thier exact words to me were pretty much if someone can say they love you, then move on to something else and say the same to them - they have issues, that is not normal.

 

I would eject if i was you, i know easier said then done, but in the long run its best.

[JrRos]

I have to say that I did this, jump from girl to girl when things were bad or over with a previous relationship. I was very girl hungry. When I was dumped by my ex, my immediate reaction was to seek other girls to "get back" at her. I slept with two girls within a week or so of our break-up... Afterward I still felt empty, matter of fact emptier than before. I realized that this trend is nothing but thirst for re-assurance. I realized that I'm not as confident as I thought I was.

 

I also had stupid trust issues with my ex. My conclusion is that one thinks that others will react to things with one's perspective. For example, if I was going out with the boys, I would flirt and probably hook up, or try to get with other girls. Therefore I would imagine she would want to do the same when she was out on her own.

 

In other words if you don't trust yourself you will not be able to trust anyone. If you don't love yourself you will not be able to love anyone else. I think you ex has a really dirty conscience about the things he's done or doing.