tigressA Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 I thought I'd post a thread wherein people can swap stories of defied expectations in dating--meeting people who they first judged as somehow unfavorable, but then being pleasantly surprised later on. LSers who have seen my recent threads know something about my first judgment of my BF--I assumed he was a flashy attention whore because of the picture of his car in his online dating profile, and the somewhat-insecure opening IM conversation had put me off too. The only reason I went on our first date was so I could have a great story to tell people later--I assumed it was going to be an utter disaster and I'd elect to never see him again. However, he turned out to be a total sweetheart. Just goes to show that sometimes, forgetting super-picky criteria can enable us to discover those delightful people we would've passed over otherwise.
SmileFace Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 Does it have to be defied expectations in a good way?
Mrlonelyone Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 I don't know that anyone here has been superpicky...or even moderately picky. I see allot of stories here from people who aren't picking...or just aren't being picked themselves. While I'm sure you mean well with this post to be utterly frank it comes across as rubbing your happy little story in the face of people who it seems have had nothing but problem upon problem.
Mrlonelyone Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 Does it have to be defied expectations in a good way? If she's willing to hear about a number of unpleasant surprises I have had I can talk about that.
Author tigressA Posted February 25, 2011 Author Posted February 25, 2011 Well, I certainly didn't intend to "rub my happiness into" anyone's face. I just thought there should be a more positive thread here and I decided to use myself as an example. I expressly stated "pleasant surprises", so if you don't have any of those to share, you can stay out of this thread and/or start your own. Seeing the posts here already it's no surprise that positive threads get spoiled fairly quickly and/or don't get many responses at all.
Mrlonelyone Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 I'm merely letting you know how your OP came across to me. I'm certain I wouldn't be the only one. Don't kill the messenger. The best way to make a positive contribution to this board IMHO is to give people constructive advice. The last thing a person having dating problems wants to hear is how great someone else's love life is.
SmileFace Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 You know what disregard my first message. This thread may just need only positives. MrL we may need a happy story rubbed in our faces every so often to show us there is hope - even if we don't want to hear it. I know what it is have problem after problem, that is all my life has been of lately. I am founding myself wishing I was a writer ,so that I actually have a way to express my pain. You know, share it. Why should I only feel this pain?Find the words to express the burning behind my eyes, since crying has proved obsolete. My stories do not need this thread ,but I will enjoy reading others. -Smile
mo mo Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 Where are the puppies??????????? I was unpleasantly surprised by someone a few months ago. She turned out to be someone completely different than I expected. Too bad I have nothing of that nature to share.
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