mustangsb27 Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 Ok, here we go. The chick I dated for 9 months and who I've NC'd for the past 3 months just sent me an e-mail this morning wondering about my job status (we're both teachers and Texas schools have to do some teacher layoffs) and some other innocuous stuff. Finished by saying, "Hope all is well." Ok.. What is it that she wants? Why would she contact me now? Some of you might be already hip to my situation. If not, read some of my threads. They're basically all about her. Anywhoo, I didn't respond yet at all. Some people on this forum advised to post here if I wasn't sure what to do. Well, I'm not sure what to do. I really just want to know what she is after. Any advice? I really would like to clear some air with her, but I don't want to give away the leverage I've gained by walking away from her and eventually de-friending her etc. How can I respond and still keep the power? I'm all ears.
2011 Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 Some people would suggest not replying, it depends on the circumstances if you both had a bad break and she cheated on you and is now throwing crumbs to see if her back up plan is still in order, in other words she has you tagged as an option and is just putting feelers out then it might not be wise to reply as she may just end up hurting you again. On the other hand if the break up was not too bad (maybe that's a contradiction in terms!) like she said she didn't feel right at the time for a RL with you then it might be an idea to just send a small reply and just answer her question and no more, don't word it in expectation of a response and see if she responds. If she responds then take it from there otherwise she is just throwing crumbs. 2011
Rose T Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 Hmm. Tricky one. NC is kind of the failsafe option, but if you're curious, you might have to bite, although you'll probably feel disappointed if you do... Honestly, I'm starting to hate emails, though. I get these fishing emails from my ex and it's driving me crazy. I swear I'm going to pick up the phone and ask him what he wants the next time I get one of those although it's really a shame to break NC like that. Emails back and forth are such a pain and such a wall for our dumpers to hide behind. You want a conversation? ring me, or come round if you dare!! Hey, she's probably bored or needs an ego-boost. Sorry man. I guess dumpers aren't that complicated in the end.
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