lovingone Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 I just got off the phone with one of my eharmony matches that I think is VERY handsome. The problem is that his conversation started out saying he admired my figure and was attracted to me (I'm plus sized) but then he started talking about masturbating to my picture. He also said he had been having relationships with women he wasn't attracted to (I'm guessing thin women). Sure he is on eharmony and says he wants a long term relationship, but I have a BIG FEELING that I shouldn't even go on the first coffee date with this guy. No guy has spoken to me this way in a first phone call before. What do you guys ( and gals ) think?
ReadyforLove Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 What the hell!??! He actually told you he jacked off to one of your pictures?! And you are still going to meet up with him? You know what he is after, right? So I am assuming you are okay with that. Have fun.
Author lovingone Posted February 25, 2011 Author Posted February 25, 2011 Ok that's what I was thinking. But I also said I felt like I shouldn't go. Doesn't hurt to get other opinions because I tend to be too suspicious. Great to see the nice understanding responses on this site
Author lovingone Posted February 25, 2011 Author Posted February 25, 2011 It's my observation that "love" comes to those who are understanding...
NYCGirly Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 This is a huge red flag. Not only is he just after sex, but he can potentially be a complete psycho. Who the heck says something that forward during the first phone conversation??? Run (don't walk) away...
Whatshername Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 Isn't e-harmony supposedly a Christian site? WOW! I would think that would cause you to BLOCK him!
daphne Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 I think you are letting your attraction to his photos cloud your judgement about what the right thing to do here. If he had been a less attractive candidate, you would have written him off without so much as a word on the forum. He is trying to use that to his advantage. But the trick is, if you're looking for something other than what he's clearly looking for, you have to have the integrity to look at the whole package and actions and not just the photos or income or other things that make a guy look shiny. For me, whenever a guy talks sex before I even meet him, I'm out. Do not pass go, do not collect $200. He can find someone else to play that game because I'm not the one.
fishtaco Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 But I thought honesty is a virtue? I was just kidding around. That's a red flag for sure.
Imajerk17 Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 Clueless at best, creepy at worst. That is a little like a woman telling a guy early on how impressed she was with the pictures of his fancy lifestyle, and how she can't wait for him to take her on his yacht and buy her lobster. A little.
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