self-improvement Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 Hey guys and girls, I want to hear your opinion on something. You go on a first date with a girl. She likes you, wouldn't mind seeing you again and all, but rather as a FRIEND (yikes, lol). Do you think a guy has any chance of getting out of the friends zone and eventually into a romantic relationship? So should he keep seeing her? Or should he just let it go? Honestly, I believe it's impossible. Once labeled as friends, there's no escaping it and then there is also no point in meeting again (unless you really just wanna be friends with her). But maybe since you have only met once there's some chance she might discover other feelings for you once you get to know each other better...??? Interested in your opinions and experiences!
fishtaco Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 The easiest path is to let her go and move on. But one of the most basic dating 101 strategy, is to date someone else, and let her "find out". It triggers some basic human emotions, I don't know what it is. Maybe jealousy, maybe the competition, maybe a sense of loss. But sometimes, they'll suddenly become interested, even if they are well aware of this strategy and even if they use it themselves. Provided you pull it off the right way. The human psyche is very interesting.
GivenUp0083 Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 I agree, it IS possible, but you can't hang your hopes on it. Be friends if it's CONVENIENT for you, meaning don't help her move, do yard work, or anything of that nature, but if she wants to talk on the phone once in a while, hang out and grab lunch, then that's cool. Maybe even be the one to "ask her advice" about a girl you're dating and make it sound as if everything is going really well. Example: Hey, there's this girl I've been seeing and things have gone really well. Do girls like roses the best? I'm going to get her flowers on our next date this weekend... BAM! It shows you have the ability to connect well with other women and another girl has interest in you, you're seeing her again, and you're thinking of doing something really sweet for her. If that doesn't trigger any emotional reaction then nothing will.
phineas Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 It depends. If your in great shape & she friendzones you, you're done. If you are a scrawny dude or a chubby dude & get in shape she'll probably change her mind. But as i've found out, by then you have more options & you stop viewing the one who friendzoned you as a loss.
phenotype22 Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 You've been friend zoned. It's over. It is the equivalent of the phantom zone in Superman. The likelihood of escaping is 0.01%. Hope can keep you alive for only so long. Next.
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