marqueemoon4 Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 It takes a whole hell of a lot for me to hate someone I loved in the past. My stbx pretty much hates me and is seeing someone and has a bunch of new friends. I find it nearly impossible to hate her, am alone, and have friends but most of them are married and pretty much homebodies. It couldn't have been easier for her to move on and alot of it fueled by hate. I wish I could hate her.
mickleb Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 A bit of hate is fine if it motivates you to move on: Moving on means no longer giving a damn. x
Tofu Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 Hate has been a strong influence in my recovery by just focusing on all the negative points my ex has and especially how she couldnt put our relationship 1st out of everything then leaving me for another guy in under a week just makes my blood boil. Tho I laugh at it now just thinking bout it since she nvr was worth it in the first place. Its a tool to help you move on thats for sure, im positive there must be some aspects of her you can focus on to feel negatively about. It helps to make you feel that you were the better one out of the both of you, how he/she is not worthy of you at all.
WTRanger Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 In my opinion, hate is a bad thing. Anger is good, but hate (to me) means long lasting almost permanent feelings. To get over them, indifference is the feeling you seek. If anger (or hate however you define it) motivates you then it is a good thing as Mickleb mentioned. However, if it keeps you down or turns you bitter, then it becomes a bad thing. You have to be careful with this emotion. It can be a double edge razor.
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