Cheating Cheaters Posted March 28, 2004 Posted March 28, 2004 Two questions for all the intelligent people: 1. Do you control your own destiny or do you let fate take its course and why? 2. How does everone feel about being the OW when the man is not married just dating?
Arabess Posted March 28, 2004 Posted March 28, 2004 1. I don't know if it's so much trusting fate as believing a cloudy heart. Love is always a gamble and some people are more prone to risk more emotion and invest more trust than others. 2. I can somehow see believing a clown who gives a list of reasons for not being divorced. Not being able to break up with a 'girlfriend' though would leave an empty list. Either he is a complete idiot or has the spine of an eel. I am NOT suggesting I'm intelligent by posting. HAHA!
morrigan Posted March 28, 2004 Posted March 28, 2004 Arabess pretty much hit it on the mark. It's great to be open and optimistic about everyday life, but being unrealistic about certain situations, especially love, doesn't benefit anyone. Some people let their heart rule, others their head. Infidelity is infidelity--whether it's on a spouse or a partner. It's the same old justifications coming from the cheater's lips.
EnigmaXOXO Posted March 28, 2004 Posted March 28, 2004 1.) I don’t believe in the existence of destiny or fate. They are nothing more than terms used to describe and/or substantiate one’s own inability to accept a particular situation whether good or bad. While we may find ourselves suddenly thrust into unforeseeable circumstances, we each have the power and ability to choose our own course of action, and in doing so, change or alter the outcome. 2.) I’m also with Arabess on this one. While financial co-dependence or children may be a convenient excuse used by the married to justify having an affair, someone single would have absolutely no obligation to remain in a relationship with anyone…or even BE in a committed relationship for that matter. If you know someone like this RUN!! PS: I don’t consider myself to be above average in intelligence, just opinionated!
yes Posted March 28, 2004 Posted March 28, 2004 1. if there is such a thing as fate, nobody's in control of their destiny. so it's more of a question of believing in fate, i think. in that case, i do believe in fate that's based on the universe's aim to achieve a certain balance: depending on what you do with your life, certain things will float towards you because of it. i dunna if that makes any sense to you! 2. i think if they're just dating and not exclusive, it's not cheating. my unintelligent 2c, -yes
Chrissy21 Posted April 5, 2004 Posted April 5, 2004 1) I used to believe in fate. But now I think that fate is just a romantic idea that people rely on so they can sit around and wait for all of their dreams to come to them. That is not to say that I have totally ruled out fate. I believe in it to some extent, but I don't think that is should be solely relied on all of the time. Fate is what you make of it. 2) It is riduculous being the OW in a situation where the man is just dating another person. I have to totally agree with Arabess. If a man cannot end a relationship where he is just dating, he doesn't have a backbone. Or either he just doesn't want to dump her because he wants his cake and eat it to.
unluckylady Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 "I don't know if it's so much trusting fate as believing a cloudy heart. Love is always a gamble and some people are more prone to risk more emotion and invest more trust than others." Ain't that the truth.
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