purplepanda Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 I am 17, and though I shouldn't really be worrying about this because of my age, and I have never gotten off. I've had sex with two guys, one who was very endowed and knew how to make me scream. It's just that, so many girls my age talk about it and they know what it feels like, and THEY'VE had one, some have had multiple. It seems so easy for them!!! D: I always like a lot of kissing, and touching through the clothes, then undressing and I'll go down on him, he'd play with me... We'd get each other all ready for it. I just don't feel that OOMPH that some girls have. They say that you KNOW when you have one, so it's not that I don't know, I just want to know how to possibly get closer to having one and how would it feel like?
bac Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 They say that you KNOW when you have one, so it's not that I don't know, I just want to know how to possibly get closer to having one and how would it feel like? if you ask your friends for details of getting O, they will avoid any explanation. IMO Most young girls never had O but they will never confess that because of desire to present themselves adequate. I and my friends told each other that we had O when we were in 20s. I have learned how to have O in 40s because I practiced exercises (masterbation) from a book. To have O, you need to have enough testosterone in your blood. If your testosterone level is not high enough, it might be hard to get O. Your testosterone level depends on your genetics and age (the older age the better). You need to practice masterbating while you are watching porno (nude males). It might take many months to get your first O. It feels the same as it feels for a male. In other words, you have some muscles contractions in your genitalia.
ShatteredReality Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 You might have to do it yourself the first time...you might be one of those girls who needs the clitoral stimulation. Also - you could be the type of girl who thinks too much during sex. I am all of the above. I was your age the first time I had one and I had just gotten out of a 2yr relationship where we were very sexually active. I wound up giving myself my first one with a detachable shower head after reading notes a friend sent to me from Texas on how to self stimulate - something I hadn't done before. I have always loved having sex, but the orgasm difficulty made me want to do it more and more because I never actually got that release - just always got kinda close. I had to learn to clear my mind...think only of what was going on with my body. Think of either nothing at all or of everything you're feeling as you are feeling it - whichever works. Remember to breathe - that's very important. Your automatic reaction is to hold your breath at times - don't do that unless concentrating on breathing detracts too much...once you're used to it, though, the breathing happens naturally. Try some different positions also, missonary doesn't really do it for me, but cowgirl is great - I think b/c I get that clitoral push from being on top....doggie style can be good too if you want to reach down and use your hand in addition...then if you finish before him you can reach back and touch him - he may like that. Just a few suggestions...hope it helps....be safe (that's my obligatory adult comment).
Woman In Blue Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 Hon, with all due respect, you're 17 years old - therefore, I'm going to assume you're having sex with teenage boys or ones in their early 20's. Boys this age don't know the first thing about females or how to please them. Sounds as though you're doing all the foreplay for these chuckleheads (giving them oral sex) and their only lame contribution is to grope you with their fingers before they jump on top of you. That's your FIRST mistake. Young guys come when the wind blows. Giving them oral sex just puts them about 2,000 paces MORE ahead of you and they're already way ahead of you to begin with. Rule number one - if you're willing to give them oral sex, then don't let them be lazy and NOT reciprocate. That's the mark of a SELFISH lover. That's why boys this age STINK in bed. Rule number two - see rule number one. Teach these boys a little patience and maybe they'll actually learn something. And lastly, YOU need to learn how YOU orgasm before you can teach these impatient boys what they need to learn. If you don't even know how to make yourself orgasm, I can assure you, these young guys sure won't figure it out. Read some books or watch some videos about female masturbation.
Untouchable_Fire Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 I am 17, and though I shouldn't really be worrying about this because of my age, and I have never gotten off. I've had sex with two guys, one who was very endowed and knew how to make me scream. My suggestion is to use masturbation to figure out your triggers. The more you stress about it... the harder it will be to have one. Just chill.
youweremyanchor Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 You've only been with 2 guys, that sounds like your problem. And if they're 17 or around there, umm not very experienced I'm sure. I'm not saying get with an older guy. Just saying, experience comes in time with practice. Figure out yourself first and once you know what works, then you can kind of direct a guy in a discreet way.
Lucky_One Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 Hon, with all due respect, you're 17 years old - therefore, I'm going to assume you're having sex with teenage boys or ones in their early 20's. Boys this age don't know the first thing about females or how to please them. Sounds as though you're doing all the foreplay for these chuckleheads (giving them oral sex) and their only lame contribution is to grope you with their fingers before they jump on top of you. That's your FIRST mistake. Young guys come when the wind blows. Giving them oral sex just puts them about 2,000 paces MORE ahead of you and they're already way ahead of you to begin with. Rule number one - if you're willing to give them oral sex, then don't let them be lazy and NOT reciprocate. That's the mark of a SELFISH lover. That's why boys this age STINK in bed. Rule number two - see rule number one. Teach these boys a little patience and maybe they'll actually learn something. And lastly, YOU need to learn how YOU orgasm before you can teach these impatient boys what they need to learn. If you don't even know how to make yourself orgasm, I can assure you, these young guys sure won't figure it out. Read some books or watch some videos about female masturbation. Yes! "Real" screaming in bed comes from having a lover who focuses on you so much while you are focused on him so much and you are incredibly and totally into each other's bodies, minds and souls. Just because a guy has a big dikc doesn't mean a thing about your compatibility with him or his abilities to make you feel fabulous.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 I am 17, and though I shouldn't really be worrying about this because of my age, and I have never gotten off. I've had sex with two guys, one who was very endowed and knew how to make me scream. It's just that, so many girls my age talk about it and they know what it feels like, and THEY'VE had one, some have had multiple. It seems so easy for them!!! D: I always like a lot of kissing, and touching through the clothes, then undressing and I'll go down on him, he'd play with me... We'd get each other all ready for it. I just don't feel that OOMPH that some girls have. They say that you KNOW when you have one, so it's not that I don't know, I just want to know how to possibly get closer to having one and how would it feel like? Remember when they told you in sex ed that your body would be changing in various ways during puberty? Then you had to endure sitting around in school and seeing SOME of the girls change in ways that you could only envy at the time. Not only that but everybody else could see and compare who had evolved furthest, and who was left straggling behind? Well now, this is pretty much the same thing... some are evolving quickly and it all has to do with sexually themed subject matter... but the good part is that nobody else can tell who is 'maturing' more rapidly than others. As you've no doubt read, it probably isn't wise to expect yourself to experience orgasm until perhaps age 22 or so, and no guarantees even then. You should also know that a very prominent element to orgasm is to begin from a place of relaxation, trust and comfort. Worrying yourself over not being able to reach orgasm is only going to have the effect of inhibiting your approach to your eventual first climaxes. Resolve to take life as it arrives and not pressure yourself so much...
Author purplepanda Posted February 28, 2011 Author Posted February 28, 2011 Hon, with all due respect, you're 17 years old - therefore, I'm going to assume you're having sex with teenage boys or ones in their early 20's. Boys this age don't know the first thing about females or how to please them. Sounds as though you're doing all the foreplay for these chuckleheads (giving them oral sex) and their only lame contribution is to grope you with their fingers before they jump on top of you. That's your FIRST mistake. Young guys come when the wind blows. Giving them oral sex just puts them about 2,000 paces MORE ahead of you and they're already way ahead of you to begin with. Rule number one - if you're willing to give them oral sex, then don't let them be lazy and NOT reciprocate. That's the mark of a SELFISH lover. That's why boys this age STINK in bed. Rule number two - see rule number one. Teach these boys a little patience and maybe they'll actually learn something. And lastly, YOU need to learn how YOU orgasm before you can teach these impatient boys what they need to learn. If you don't even know how to make yourself orgasm, I can assure you, these young guys sure won't figure it out. Read some books or watch some videos about female masturbation. One was 15/16 and the other was 18. They were both virgins lol. I was with the younger one though.
Author purplepanda Posted February 28, 2011 Author Posted February 28, 2011 My suggestion is to use masturbation to figure out your triggers. The more you stress about it... the harder it will be to have one. Just chill. I used to be really into that before I started having sex...now it doesn't really do anything for me. I lose patience after about five minutes and I seldom ever do it. Maybe that's why I haven't cause I'm so impatient. >.<
Chi townD Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 okay, first off. You're 17 and in High School (I assume). I think you have more important things to worry about in life than having an orgasim or even sex for that matter. You're very young and when you get older, you'll understand your bodies likes and dislikes. However, don't be in such a hurry to grow up.
dreamingoftigers Posted March 1, 2011 Posted March 1, 2011 Yeah gotta do the masturbation thing. For me what works is going around the clot counter-clockwise (I read that somewhere) but I think whatever way you sort of start (whether if be clockwise, counter-clockwise, up and down or side to side is the one you start to identify orgasm with. For me I notice just below the clit is prime for stimulation and having softened fingers the best. It helps me to think of a dick going in and out of me as I do it, but something else may work for you. You can also try a vibrator with clit stimulation. Sometimes the extra pushes you over the edge, I don't like the vibrate per se but having something in and rubbing up against your g-spot (google it) intensified it completely. Intercourse will probably only work to give you an O if you have a partner that lines up properly to you and can last long enough to make it worthwhile. Sadly, that age group isn't exactly known for it.
Author purplepanda Posted March 4, 2011 Author Posted March 4, 2011 okay, first off. You're 17 and in High School (I assume). I think you have more important things to worry about in life than having an orgasim or even sex for that matter. You're very young and when you get older, you'll understand your bodies likes and dislikes. However, don't be in such a hurry to grow up. True... And I do have good grades, a job, etc. But I was just wondering why I was say, "Out of the loop", cause I've heard my friends talk about it, and how they knew they were having one. Mostly curiosity.
Confusedalways Posted March 4, 2011 Posted March 4, 2011 I'm confused about everyone saying they were getting orgasms so late in life- do you mean from sex? I was having orgasms on my own since I was probably 11 or 12, I just didn't know that's what they were until I was a little older. Orgasming from sex- THAT is a different story, and I would agree with people that I didn't until I was in my 20's.
USCGAviator Posted March 5, 2011 Posted March 5, 2011 One day when you have play time with a man that knows how to use his hands, you will be all set.
Feelin Frisky Posted March 5, 2011 Posted March 5, 2011 It's not important masturbate once to see what it's like, it's important to masturbate a lot to learn your body and YOUR MIND and how your mind is such an important part of getting you into being orgasmic. I think it's part of popular sexual repression typical of religious or conservative families to discourage a girl from exploring her body and mind and thus leaving it all for the actual encounter with a man to find out what's what. That is a recipe for dysfunction or disappointment. Most boys masturbate and learn how to use fantasy to get themselves hot. No one teaches them how to get themselves hot so they are certainly not at all educated on how to help a girl use her mind to turn on her orgasm machine. A guy--especially a young one--won't even know how much a woman's mind needs to be engaged in the sexual experience in order for it to be satisfying for both parties and he is more than likely just trying to either perform well without prematurely ejaculating or worrying himself so much that he could be setting himself up to go soft at a bad time. You need to not only learn you body and your mind and what turns you on and how to fantasize to aid you in becoming orgasmic, you need to know that you are encouraged to do so and that this is something healthful and good for you regardless of what anyone else tells you. Take you time when your alone and entertain your thoughts of sex--where ever that leads and touch yourself to lead yourself to climax. The more you experience that and grow confident that it's just plain nature that is there for you to enjoy without guilt, the sooner you will become ready to have sex with a guy or another girl (if that's what you want) and know that getting your climax is your responsibility. Don't leave it to a man to give it to you. Too many guys just aren't oriented properly toward sex either and will make a lot of dumb mistakes. Take charge of getting what you want out of it--and knowing the relationship between you mind and sex organs is the key.
alexandria35 Posted March 5, 2011 Posted March 5, 2011 I'm confused about everyone saying they were getting orgasms so late in life- do you mean from sex? I was having orgasms on my own since I was probably 11 or 12, I just didn't know that's what they were until I was a little older. Orgasming from sex- THAT is a different story, and I would agree with people that I didn't until I was in my 20's. I was wondering about this too! I've been having orgasms since I was a little kid. I learned to masturbate at a very young age. I don't know why, I don't think I was sexually abused or anything like that, I think I was just very curious about my body and kind of fiqured it out for myself. So orgasms have been a part of my whole life all the way back to childhood. But like you said, sex with another person is a whole different thing. I was 26 years old before I had an orgasm with a man.
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