blacksentra Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 First a little background: I discovered this site about 3 years ago, right after my first college breakup. Since then I've continued to visit after each breakup (and will probably continue to for the rest of my life when I need the help to cope) However, this morning I noticed something quite funny. During my first break up and the one I'm going through right now, I've noticed that I am on this site constantly in the first 2 months after a breakup (during the period of false hope). And after that point I begin to visit less often. I've also noticed that my less frequent visits to this site also correlate to me beginning to move on with my life. And that’s where I think I'm at now. Prior to me writing this post, I haven’t really visited LS much at all in the last month. And funny enough, I don't really feel the sting of my last breakup as much anymore . Don’t get me wrong, I’m still not over her, but I feel optimistic about my future without her now. Has anyone else noticed a similar pattern? [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3] [/sIZE][/FONT]
poorguy Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 Good observation man. Sometimes I'm on here more than others. I'm not over everything just yet either, but at first I was on here all of the time looking for answers. As time has gone on I see new people on here at the very begining of theri breakup asking what I was asking for the most part. So I guess I try to help them the best I can. In general though I agree that LS isn't the first thing I go to look at everday and somedays I sort of forget. It's helped me a lot to move on with life. LS is a great tool with a lot of great people on it.
ShatteredReality Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 My visits here ebb and flow...I don't always post, but sometimes it helps to read about what others are going through to assist whatever issue I feel like I am having...put it back into perspective as either not that big a deal or perhaps even find the answer in someone elses post. What I have noticed, though, is the only time most folks post is when they have a problem - that's what the forum is for. Funny thing about that, though, is that makes the folks to come here often and see people posting all this negative stuff - well we become jaded....man this is so and so's fourth post about her H being a jerk...he's just a total @$$....LOL....I mean I try to keep things in perspective and remind myself that mostly what I am hearing is all the negative and if the person remains in the relationship there has to be some positive....but yeah...when things go really well and I am busy I don't make LS a priority...when I am down or a friend has problems...or I am having a bad week with the husband - I come on here for the therapy - MUCH less expensive than a therapist (which isn't covered by my insurance) and just as effective!!
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