Nikki100 Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 I have this guy friend who is my best friend and i love him so much, i cant stop thinking about him, he drives me crazy! he say's he loves me more than a friend but he has hurt me in the past, really hurt me, broke my heart! since then i have told him i just want friendship and that we are best friends only! i love him so much and want to tell him but am scared of him hurting me again or getting bored of me, and dont want 2 wreck the friendship! i really dont know what to do! i love him but am so scared of bein with him! help??
spiderowl Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 I think this depends on how he has hurt you and whether it was deliberate or not. Also, whether he knew what he was doing would hurt you. If he deliberately hurt you (e.g. went out with another girl while you were his girlfriend), then you would be wise not to take a risk with him. If the hurt was unintentional and he does care for you, then the risk is not so great. You have to assess the risk, but if you decide that he's ok and it was not his fault, then what have you got to lose except your pride? If you don't take the risk of loving him, then are you likely to regret that much more? At least if you give it a go, then you will be able to tell yourself you tried, even if it didn't work out. It's easy for me to say, I know. The risk about whether he's trustworthy or not is only something you can assess.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 I have this guy friend who is my best friend and i love him so much, i cant stop thinking about him, he drives me crazy! he say's he loves me more than a friend but he has hurt me in the past, really hurt me, broke my heart! since then i have told him i just want friendship and that we are best friends only! i love him so much and want to tell him but am scared of him hurting me again or getting bored of me, and dont want 2 wreck the friendship! i really dont know what to do! i love him but am so scared of bein with him! help?? All I can do is assure you that he is only hanging around because he wants more than friendship. Lots of women are in your position, and so many are unwilling to consider that laying it all on the line, honestly, is the best move for either of two reasons: 1 - he totally feels the same way and wants to try to build wonderful romance with you 2 - you get to find out clearly how he really feels, and IF he doesn't feel romantic about you, then you get to KNOW that for the betterment of your own life in the immediate future (no matter how much it hurts to learn) So just bravely put your true feelings on the table, and take your chances on the romance again. (guys just don't do the "friends only" thing with women they wouldn't rather be in a romance with)
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