jim_20 Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 Hi My girlfriend goes to uni and is moving into a house for her 2nd year of studying. We have been together for around 11 months now, half has been long distance and half hasnt. There is her, another girl and 2 boys moving in. However I am worried that one of the boys likes her and that she may change her mind about me and prefer him. It worries me that she will be spending more time around him than me. We are around 200 miles away and see each other 3 times a month. She has reassured me saying nothing will happen between them. I know she loves me and she talks about marriage and having a family after uni but I am still worried. What can I do?? Is this just me being paranoid?? Thanks
madjac74 Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 Well all you can do is stop worrying and trust her. I understand it is unsettling that she will be sharing a place in a college setting with two guys that would drive me nuts too. But if you are worried about her cheating, there is nothing you can do unfortunately. Whether long distance or under the same roof, if someone decides to cheat they will find a way. And just because this guy likes her doesnt mean she has any interest in him. I have people who like me who are more local but I never had an interest in them for anything more than friends. Just trust in what she tells you until you have actual proof to believe otherwise. You will drive yourself nuts worrying about other guys. And trust me some girls feed off that insecurity.
TokyoG33kyGal Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 Whether long distance or under the same roof, if someone decides to cheat they will find a way. i agree. it will you get you nowhere if you get paranoid about something that is out of your control. if you are confident and secured in your relationship, your girl will remain faithful to you.
creighton0123 Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 You're trying to control her (at least in your mind). Don't. You will only come to regret it. Trust her until she gives you a reason not to. Love is a risk. Take the risk. Don't express a desire to create some unhealthy relationship bubble where you or your girlfriend prevent yourself from encountering people who may or may not find you attractive.
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