SlawKing Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 So I've been on a few dates with this girl and all of the signals were good. We were having a fourth date tonight, but she sent me a text this morning saying that she doesn't feel like more than friends. She goes on to say that I'm a great guy and I probably won't be on the market for long, but she just wants to be friends. I responded by saying that the good couples usually start off as friends, but I understand if that's how she feels. This is the first time I've dated since I was dumped by my gf of 3 and a half years, so I'm a little crestfallen at the moment. I'm not sure what I did wrong or what may have lead to this, but it has sufficiently shaken my confidence. Any suggestions or comments?
Mrlonelyone Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 Don't be down on yourself. The truth is that there is probably nothing you could do different. We can only speculate as to why she would want to not date you. The reasons we date or don't date who we do are irrational. It's possible that you thought the signals were good, and the dates where good but she didn't. It's possible that she's one of those persons who holds to the "3rd date sex rule" and since you didn't have sex (I assume) she thinks your not that into her. Just throwing out some possibilities. These things are part of the process of finding that next special someone. She wasn't it now your that much closer in time to the next one.
whichwayisup Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 So I've been on a few dates with this girl and all of the signals were good. We were having a fourth date tonight, but she sent me a text this morning saying that she doesn't feel like more than friends. She goes on to say that I'm a great guy and I probably won't be on the market for long, but she just wants to be friends. I responded by saying that the good couples usually start off as friends, but I understand if that's how she feels. This is the first time I've dated since I was dumped by my gf of 3 and a half years, so I'm a little crestfallen at the moment. I'm not sure what I did wrong or what may have lead to this, but it has sufficiently shaken my confidence. Any suggestions or comments? You didn't do anything wrong! She just doesn't see you in that light, maybe the chemistry just wasn't there. I know it sucks, but really don't blame yourself. Haven't you ever liked a girl abit, then realized that you just don't "feel" it for her? It happens. People change their minds.
V4Vanna Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 Slawking - as a girl who's written that text message before, please don't stress about it or think it's anything you did. I'm sure you're a great guy and were a fantastic date to the girl in question. However, for some reason or another she just wasn't into you or didn't feel a connection with you. It does happen - and it's no one's fault. As the old saying goes 'we don't choose who we like, or who we fall in love with.' Take it as experience to getting back into the dating scene but not as anything more. You'll find someone out there, but until then, enjoy the time looking.
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