seriously doubting the power of NC, nothing left to lose, should i go for it

[turokturok5]

alright its been 3 weeks since i was dumped for being too clingy after 2 months, i was her first boyfriend. i know for a fact that if she would've told me i was being too clingy we could've fixed things, i was starting to get bored sitting around at her house just watching movies and wanted to get out and do things, i feel as if she wanted to do this too, but it was too late to take action. i offered her space, she declined. 2 weeks of NC, apart from seeing her amongst friends, cant say i really communicated with her though and im most likely seeing her tomorrow at a friends gathering. If the opportunity arises, i shall tell her face to face, if not, im thinking of messaging her this (it'l probably be a suprise because ive deleted her off facebook, getting a facebook message from someone thats not your friend may be odd)

 

"look i found out you broke up with me for being too clingy. if you would of told me, or accepted my offer of space then it would of reinforced that i needed to ease up. i know you still want to be friends, but breaking up was the best thing for you, and as a consequence i got hurt. the best thing for me to do, for now atleast would be to avoid you, i know it sounds kind of harsh, but it would make it easier for me to move on. if however you have a change of heart and want to work something out you know how to contact me, but i wont wait forever."

 

She said i was the nicest guy she had ever met, so this may shock her a little.

yeah, so if anyone has anything to add or subtract to that, please do so. Afterwards im going straight back into NC and if she wants to, she'll contact me.

Edited February 24, 2011 by turokturok5

[marqueemoon4]

i think the standard response you'll get around here is NC isn't a strategy to get your ex back, its so you can heal yourself. and if she thought you were too clingy, NC will help in making it look like you're not.

[Mixed28]

I am in the exact same situation as you. Do not contact her it will only push her away I know it is hard. I was also in my first relationship that lasted only 2 months and I was physically clingy. Contacting her will only make you look more clingy.