ALBI2 Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 Broke up about 2 months ago as she wanted space. I've kept LC and we did meet for a drink and then she starting hugging and kissing me when i went to leave, which I foolishly went along with. I've agreed with her that it's best for us to be apart from each other at the moment. I went no contact over the weekend and yesterday I had 10 missed calls from her. She did leave a voicemail in the end with a list of silly questions about things she can find the answers to herself. Also asking for my grandmothers address so she can send a get well soon card??? Please could a women advise me WTF is wrong with her? Also should I keep absolutely NC or reply in a few days with the answers? Any advice would be great! (typing on my phone, please excuse any mistakes)
flow15 Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 well she obviously wants to talk to you!! do you want her back? if so, maybe in a couple of days answer her questions. if not, carry on NC
Author ALBI2 Posted February 24, 2011 Author Posted February 24, 2011 I do but I want her begging at my feet. If she doesn't then I'll go find someone better. As I'm writing this she has called twice... And now just sent a text asking why I'm ignoring her and asking me to call her. Should I? I know it won't be to say will you take me back so is there any point? I don't want her to think she can't reconcile with me if and when she is ready
flow15 Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 maybe leave it another day to see if she is still calling u, if she is then send her a text saying, sorry i was busy and then see what she wants. This is what happened to gator, have u read his post on guide to NC and second chances??
Author ALBI2 Posted February 24, 2011 Author Posted February 24, 2011 I have seen his guide and it's good. It works. I just feel I'll be breaking NC even if I send her a text in a couple of days saying I've been busy. Or is it like giving them a bread crumb as their the needy one now? Another 2 calls just now... This is very satisfying. I have a feeling she'll be at the same place as me on Saturday night. Should I wait and see if she confronts me or send a text before? Thanks for your replys
flow15 Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 Well if she is still calling I don't think she will be giving up anytime soon.. This is driving her crazy. I think its safe to carry on ignoring the calls if you really don't want to text her. Maybe leave it a couple of days and see how often she calls, or if she texts you and says she really wants to talk then call her or text her and say you've been really busy
Bluebelle38 Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 FFS take the damn call. This sounds like schoolyard b*llsh*t. You cant contact her in 2 days and say 'I was busy' after all these missed calls. It shows you up as an immature gameplayer. hear what she says and then, if you don't want her back tell her to not contact you again. I think if you carry on like you are then you are going to be the loser. Wanting to see her beg at your feet? Give me a break. She wont be ringing you forever. You are wasting her time and yours. I'm all for no contact but this is ridiculous.
makelemonade1974 Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 I do but I want her begging at my feet. If she doesn't then I'll go find someone better. As I'm writing this she has called twice... And now just sent a text asking why I'm ignoring her and asking me to call her. Should I? I know it won't be to say will you take me back so is there any point? I don't want her to think she can't reconcile with me if and when she is ready I think ten phone calls qualifies as "begging at your feet."
JrRos Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 I'm in the "if you want her back, stop playing around" crew. Vindictive behaviors tend to get the best of us. Like I said if you feel you honestly, and sincerely want to try again, listen to what she has to say. Good luck.
Author ALBI2 Posted February 24, 2011 Author Posted February 24, 2011 Im 99% sure it won't be too get back together so maybe there is no point. I feel she is using me hence why I'm ignoring her. It's difficult to know what to do. I think I'll answer if she calls tonight. I'm so confused.
timchambo Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 seems pretty simple to me. Reply to her question of "why are you ignoring me?" with "I am giving you the space you requested." and if you want her back add "If you want to give us a 2nd chance in the future let me know".
Author ALBI2 Posted February 25, 2011 Author Posted February 25, 2011 (edited) Where do I start! Got home, sent a text saying I was busy. Got a reply to call when I'm free. Called her, spoke about the issues in our relationship and why we broke up, mutual friends had told her how i'd changed and we were both on the verge of giving it a chance but we both seemed a little reluctant. She said she would come round tomorrow evening to discuss further and see how she felt when she saw me. This was a 3 hour conversation. Me being the strange guy I am, decided she was not forth coming enough and had to do some thing to stop all this right now. I call back and for no reason at all told and her about one night I had with another girl 3 years ago. It's been on my mind ever since and i've always felt it was to late to tell her. Anyway, you can imagine how well this went down. I explained it would not be fair for her to be with me and that i'm not the person she thought I was. I wanted it to end. For it to be final so we can both move on knowing that it wasn't right. But yet here I am at 2am after 6 hours and were still in limbo. She was upset, embarrassed and overall even more confused and still wants to meet tomorrow (probably to kill me). I just want it to be over now. I've had enough. I can't take anymore emotions and neither can she. A complete mess. Edited February 25, 2011 by ALBI2 sp
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