Should I tell her ex and daughter?

[acolaclass]

I just broke up with my girlfriend of a year and a half. She has been separated from her husband the whole time but with no intention to reconcile with him. Anyway, nobody knew about our relationship the whole time since the divorce was not final. She said to me early on that if one day when her daughter finds out and is not comfortable with the idea of us dating, that she, my gf, would have to break up with me. EVERYBODY I talked to seem to agree that she using her daughter as an excuse if she decides to break it off....and that is exactly what she did. She says to me "I think we should take several months apart, no communication at all, no calls, texts smoke signals, nothing...BUT after my divorce is final I will come back to you and we can try again." BUT then she goes on to say, "But I dont know when my divorce will be final and even if it were, I dont think my daughter is EVER going to be comfortable with us dating" (implying that she's not really going to take me back but she never came out and said it directly. She's still asking me to wait but says she does not expect me to). As you can imagine this whole thing has brought me pain unlike anything I can describe here and I am verrrrrrrrrrry tempted to 'confess' to her soon to be ex about what she has 'really' been up to this last year and a half (I have proof) AND even more tempted to come clean to her daughter cuz I feel my gf used her daughter as a pawn in the situation. The daughter is 14. The risk however is since it would be confessing infidelity, my now ex may lose custody of her daughter. HIGHLY unlikely I think but a possibility nonetheless, but frankly that does not bother me too much cuz she left me scars too. Your thoughts?

[SweetyBear]

I think moving on and finding someone who will not use you in the future is better for you than trying to exact revenge by dragging other people down, especially innocent parties like the daughter and the soon to be ex.