Online flirting, BOYS, what are you thinking when ur with someone?

[Hote204]

I'm just trying to understand really what goes on in boys head. Situation is, i have split with my ex of 2 years. Over the whole of the time we were together, he was forever messaging other girls. I like to think i am very respectful of men having friends who are girls, in fact i encourage it. This is probably my downfall..

 

However, if you are with someone, WHY do you need to do it? For example, my ex would ignore me and be sending messages to girls who he didnt REALLY know on FB. He would be flirting like "mm i'm excited to see what you have got me for my birthday - is it something nice?". I have witnessed the full range of messages from him asking what a girl would be wearing if he went round to asking his ex if she had got married as he would hate to have "missed the boat". If the girls asked him if he had a girlf, he would just ignore the question! He would also see people out and then randomly message them, one message said to a lady out on a sat night that she should have waited in town for him to finish work at 3.30am!

 

This behaviour (and other various factors) contributed to our split. He is now devasted (of course!) and says he was being silly and he likes the attention off girls to make him feel he "still has it". He gave his number out to a girl who started text flirting with him and i caught him for it. I mean, as a girl i dont get it but, why would a boy do this?? I cant really say in full honestly whether i think he cheated on me or not. He was seeing another girl 6 months into our relationship but we were sort of casual but it killed me. He has also been caught on 2 dating websites. On 1 site messages were being sent and the other, he was just looking at girls profiles.

 

Is he not fullfilled, scared to commit...or just a downright player?? This went on for the whole 2 years we went out although it slowed down towards the end. But what he has done to my mental state is horrific! He's old enough to know better too, EARLY 30's!!

 

Thanks

[PegNosePete]

or just a downright player??

Yes, that's the one.

 

There's no need to question why he did it or what he got out of it. You already know. Attention, and likely physical stuff too. Girls do it just as much as boys so there's really nothing to understand about men's minds here. It's not a gender issue, it's an arsehole issue.

 

You just need to forget this tosser and move on, find someone who will respect you.

[Hote204]

I know, sorry i didnt mean to generalise the boys! I just dont get it. Im told i could be a model, always getting asked out and he was so not really interested. Always trying to "make" me look better!? He was always looking at porn, which i dont mind at all. He's a boy lol!

 

When you look at the WHOLE picture tho, its very twisted i think. I mean, does a man like this ever find a women that is good enough for him? Is it the buzz you get out of having women throwing themselves at you?

[PegNosePete]

To be honest you're better off not thinking about it. He is the past, you need to look to the future. There's no need to look for logic or reason in his seemingly illogical actions. It would give Mr. Spock a brain haemorrhage!

 

I have a female friend who is really HOT and recently got cheated on. Some guys (and girls) just need to have their heads read. There is no better explanation than that.