mlchris2 Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 (edited) I lost my wife in Nov 2010... Been handling it really well, considering all the B.S. that is going on. I come seeking some advice, comments, suggestions about something I'm going thru. Well i went from having sex with my wife at least once a day for three years and I'm struggling with that. Any suggestions on how to cope with this??? Also, before I make this next comment, I am in no way ready to move forward and start a relationship. With that said, my wife physically and personality wise was "amazing". She was 5'3", 110lbs, not a strechmark or blemish on her body. dark hair, green eyes, perfect smile, had a rockin body... nice little tush and went from a small B to small D after implant surgery. This might be related to my previous paragraph, but our sex life was AMAZING!!! I got what I wanted and she got what she wanted... there was no lacking in that dept... none... zip... zilch.Her personality was to die for... we fit so well, she was funny, carefree, had some of the same ambitions and goals that I did and we were into many of the same things. So I've been working thru alot of emotions and have been thinking about something... I feel that when the time comes, I wont find another woman like her, both physically and personality wise. Am I crazy for thinking this? I've been hanging out with friends and meeting other women and all I can think to myself is; "Nope, not going to cut it..." My relationships before I meet her were in no comparison, maybe that's why I'm feeling the way I do. I don't know what to do with this mind set I have myself in. I feel that I'm not going to settle, but at the same time, my expectations are set really high... ... so what do you all think??? Edited February 24, 2011 by mlchris2
worlybear Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 Grieve. You're trying too hard and too quickly to replace your wife. You'll never find another person, exactly the same and that's o.k. She was unique. But..... There are good people out there, widen your friendship circle and don't try to run before you can walk! Take care.:bunny:
brokendreamz Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 Mt Fiance walked out on me after 8 years. It hurts. I will never find another like her and like you I am worried about this. People say 'plenty more fish in the sea' but I know I'll never again find what I lost... And I don't think I want to settle for anything less. Feels like I'm destined to be single for the rest of my life. Good luck mate.
marqueemoon4 Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 my ex is attractive enough on the outside but pretty ugly on the inside. i cant imagine what it would be like to lose the "perfect" spouse if they really were that, must be so hard. My ex and I were a terrible match and I'm still devastated.
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