My ex girlfriend was a bit of a dog, why cant i get over her?

[roman_pavluchenko]

well basically i liked her for like 6 months and finally asked her out on leavers and she said yes. But she dumped me after 2 months for being too clingy apparently. We're both around 18 years old and i was her first boyfriend. Its been 3 weeks since it happenned and i have been thinking about all the good times and things im going to miss about her, but now when i think about it more, i should've listened to my friends when they told me she wasnt worth my time, as she was a massive dog. (Im not using dog in terms of being ugly etc, im using it in terms of suddenly bailing out on plans)

 

The first and most memorable of these "dog" acts, was on new years. I hadn't seen her for 8 days and barely talked to her, i called her once when we got reception and we were saying how much we miss eachother and blah blah blah, then we agreed we would do something on New years. Now i had already been invited to a party with my mates, but i had spent a week with them on holdidays so i told them i was going to see my girlfriend instead of going to the party because i hadnt seen her in 8 days, of course they got pretty angry but yeah.

 

Theres a lot more to the story, but basically my girlfriend told me on the 31st she was going to an all girls party. I got invited to a different party with my mates, which passed the party which my girlfriend was at. I knew the family who was hosting it and went to the front door and talked to her dad, just telling him how i havent seen my girlfriend in 8 days and i just wanted to pop in and say happy new years and then i'd be off, he said that was fine. so i go in. Shes in the pool with a few girls, i smile and say hey, expecting her to be suprised and happy to see me, instead she has a go at me for "crashing" the party and tells me to leave, although i told her i knew the father, and explained to him i just wanted to wish you happy new years. She just told me to go because i was making her look bad, she called me up later and said happy new years, i apologized for what i did (although she didnt really deserve it) Just kind of pisses me off, because her friends were somewhat happy to see me and were all like "awww this is so sweet" but the one i really wanted to see has a go at me.

 

Other things happened after this within the final month, such as in a group setting i sometimes just wanted to be with her, so i would walk off and hope she follows, she would, but would have a go at me, again telling me it makes her look bad and that when we were in a group it wasnt just about us (we saw eachother like once a week, so when it was with a group it was kinda gay)

 

Other things happened but i wont go TOO much into it, things such as her only ever planning things within a group setting, although i had met her grandparents (hell i even sat down and had a cup of tea with them and talked about real estate) she said i couldnt come see her, or she couldnt come out because they were there > her sister was allowed out though. If we had a group thing planned, which was possibly not going to happen, i would suggest we do something together if it didnt - she says she couldnt because her parents say she goes out too much, or she couldnt be bothered after work. What really got to me also is, we had only been dating for 3 weeks and on christmas she got me an expensive bottle of cologne which i put on whenever i saw her and for my birthday she got me a wallet (despite the fact it was tiny and i couldnt put coins in it) i used it because it was a gift from her. I got her an expensive bracelet for christmas and she never wore it.

 

And she would never return calls or anything. < This really annoyed me on one occasion, she was at work and had never actually called me before and i questioned her about this, she said she would call me later on at 10pm. I completely forgot and went to a party with my mates. Then at 9:30 i remembered, so i told my mates i had to go early to help mum with something (they didnt buy it and had a go at me for dogging them) I made it back for 10, and she didnt call.

 

She was the nicest girl i had ever met and was really beautiful. But When i think about this now, i should've ended it ages ago. She wasnt willing to make the slightest sacrifice for me and i put her forward as one of my top priorities. Although im thinking about this and i know she wasnt good for me, why do i still have feelings for her, its been 3 weeks :S