grapefruit Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 We broke up two weeks ago, it was pretty much mutual, but I did the breaking up, he was being distant and I felt un-loved. But when I realized he was just going through a hard time and needed support, I regretted my decision and sent this letter three days ago, no response yet. Its long but please read it. I don’t want to bombard you right as you come back from one of the most amazing places on earth.. and of course I want to hear all about it, and see the amazing pictures, but right now its important for me to let you know what’s going on in my mind. With my time to think, I decided that you needed to know how I really felt. When we broke up, it was an impulsive move on my part. I didn’t give you space to figure out your feelings, and I didn’t give myself time to think about what had happened. I was stuck on the idea that you “wanted this” and felt like I was holding you back in some way. After we broke up for the first two days I was sure it was over forever. I tried to just move on, all of your pictures were gone, I decided it was for the best, and we just weren’t “meant to be.” I expected it would be really hard to get used to, and we’d be friends eventually, and it would be fine in the long run. Little did I know I would wake up days later getting slapped in the face with this tremendous regret. I didn’t realize how much I deeply cared, and the love I had for you, and how much potential we really had. I found myself wondering how you were, wishing I could talk to you, regretting the decision to leave you behind. I asked my friends for advice, and nothing seemed to help, I knew that you were unhappy for some reason and pulling away, and it killed me that I couldn’t be there for you anymore. I know that what you may need is space, and time to figure out what is best for you, and maybe I do to, but I can’t help but think that there is still a chance for us. No, it can never be the “same,” it never is, but just being around you, being in your arms, should have been enough for me. At the end of the relationship I was too impulsive and emotional. I dissected every text, and I didn’t realize the damage until I had time to think it through. I don’t expect for you to want to be with me ever again, but I can’t sit here and not tell you that I miss you dearly, and want so badly for us to try again. If what you want is for us to never be together again, I understand, and I will move on. I know it seems silly to go on and off, and I can’t take back what I said or the pictures I gave back to you, but this time I feel is much different. I’m not the type to have a back-and-forth relationship, but this time I have a new appreciation and view of us, and know we could make it. I didn’t intend on actually sending this letter to you, just wrote it as a way to get my feelings on paper, and what came out ended up being something I would regret not sending. I just need to know if you have decided its over forever, or if you want to take steps in mending our relationship, either way it won’t be easy or quick, but you are worth it to me.
tommy.is.my.name Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 Wow. I think I speak for a lot of us here by saying that is exactly what I, and many others, would want to hear from the person that left us behind. It takes a lot of courage to write and send a letter like that. You put yourself on the line for sure, but I think that it is best that you were honest about your feelings. You may get hurt, but if you didn't try then you would have always wondered. I hope it works out. If he loves you he will see your heart and intentions.
0hpenelope Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 Your feelings are now out in the open and your ex knows where you stand. Good. Ball's in your ex's court and this is a good thing. It means that you have no further obligations to him, meaning you don't have to keep in touch with him. You're in control of your own actions, but I just want to remind you to not fall into the pattern of getting in touch with him again and again. He already knows how you feel with this e-mail. Focus on yourself now and heal. Good luck! You will feel better. Time is the best healer.
rubyblue16 Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 i did the similier sort of thing , wish i had the guts to send something like tht =/ ur reasons for breaking up wheere the exact same as mine ive not spoken to my ex for two weeks i m stuck on what to do , he said he wanted to stay friends =\ hope things work out for you =]
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