hobo bob36 Posted March 28, 2004 Posted March 28, 2004 There is this girl I like, of course thats how quite a few of these start off. Anyways, she has been I my class all year, and a few months ago when we switched seats I got put next to her. We didn't talk for the first few weeks, but then after a while the walls came down and we started talking. Later I got her screen name from a friend who had it, claiming i needed it for homework. I have been talking to her since then and have called her on her cell phone a few times to talk to her. She's really friendly, and as such I really can't tell if there are any feelings towards me there. I like her, but don't know what to do. I was trying to get to do something with her last week during spring break, but it just didn't happen. I really suck at this stuff and need help please ^_^
befuddled11 Posted March 28, 2004 Posted March 28, 2004 So you've got her screen name, hey? I'm assuming that means her name on some type of Instant Messenger thingy? (like AOL, etc). Well why don't you get a bunch of your friends together.....to all go out and do something fun........to a movie, to the Mall, out to eat somewhere......and then ask her to come along with you....that way it's more "casual" and not so much like a "date" because there'll be lots of others there, but offer to pick her up if you can (not sure if you drive, etc). Or ask her if you can both get together so she can help you with something "homework-related"........or invite some friends over to your house (guys AND girls), if you're allowed, and invite her to come over to watch, also. That's how I preferred it when I was probably your age (mid teens/late teens)..I was horribly shy back then, HORRIBLY shy.......and I wasn't allowed to "date" until I was 16 (I was 16 in my last year of high school so that didn't help much).........so it worked well if my friends and I could organize these 'group' type of things.......then there was a lot less pressure and it was less nerve-wracking. Hope that helps! Let us know how it goes and what you decide to do. GOOD LUCK! You've got nothing to lose and everything to gain
Arabess Posted March 28, 2004 Posted March 28, 2004 I agree with Befuddled. If I were a guy interested in a girl, I'd suggest a casual hang-out, rather than asking for a date right away. That way, there isn't anything to be lost in the transaction. If you approach a female as a friend, rather than a possible love match, it makes everyone involved feel less pressured.
Author hobo bob36 Posted March 28, 2004 Author Posted March 28, 2004 The advice you have given is very good, except for the fact that my friends and I are a bunch of computer playing geeks (lol) and thats what we sit around and do. I don't think that I will be able to talk more than 1 or 2 of them to do anything like a movie. And I really don't know many of her friends.As for homework I am very intellegent and she knows that b/c everyone makes fun (not really) of me and my other friend in class because neither me nor my friend do anywork, but both have B+'s whereas everyone else has to work for that grade. The best thing that I can think of that I can do is maybe get my best friend to go to the movies and ask her if she and her best friend want to come. Thanks for any additional advice.
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