pandagirl Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Recently, I've heard stories from some of my friends about their online dating experiences where the person they were seeing was actually cheating on their SOs. I just really can't believe it! Then I just had the experience of the guy lying about his age -- a lesser offense, but still -- maybe I'm naive, but all this lying, it kind of deflates my view on humanity. Are so many people THAT willing to lie and cheat?
Author pandagirl Posted February 23, 2011 Author Posted February 23, 2011 girls date jerks. Actually, the stories I were referring to had to do with MEN dating women who were cheating.
GivenUp0083 Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 (edited) Pandagirl: You have to realize that online dating leaves a lot of explanaition about ones self. So in an attempt to make themselves look more appealing, the line that stands between exaggeration and deception becomes very gray. An example is height. I'm 5'8". I'm not tall, but I don't consider myself a "short person". However when I entered the online dating world, I noticed from women's profiles that they had an expectation of someone to be at least 4-5 inches taller than them, and some women were even verbal about their requirement of at least 6 ft or taller. Now I could've probably embellished this to a 5'9"...maybe even pushed it to a 5'10" for short girls who may not notice the difference from their angle, but personally I'm confortable with myself to list my real height as I wouldn't want to date a girl that wouldn't scratch me off due to an inch or two anyway. Now this can be applied to women who list their body type "average" yet many men would consider them more "curvy" or "overweight". People also use photos of themselves of funny angles, maybe photos of themselves from a few years ago where they weighed 30 lbs less, or their hair was different, thinking that maybe the other person won't know the difference when they meet in person or will overlook it. Is that lying or embelishing? It's tough to say, but people will always try to put their best foot forward in these situations, so you have to take certain things with a grain of salt, and find out the truth through meeting them or spending more time with them. As for cheating I have no experience with. Edited February 23, 2011 by GivenUp0083
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