psej20 Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Background: I have been with her for 3 months now and we both really like and care for each other. First incident: One month into our relationship, she had made plans to see a concert near where I live (she lives 40 minutes away). She texted me saying that she wanted to see me. I couldn't because I had a relative that was sick and in the hospital. She didn't care and basically just texted me a whole novel of how I didn't make the effort to see her. She was with her friends and came for a concert by the way. Pretty much ended the text saying that she doesn't want to talk to or see me again and not contact her again and how I ruined a good thing. Next morning she apologized saying she was drunk and over-reacted. I let it go and we moved on. Second incident: Last night, I went out with my good friend whom I consider to be a sister to me for my bday dinner. My girl texted me at night saying that I should come up and see her. I said I couldn't as I was with my friend eating dinner and what not. She said it was cool and have fun. No biggie. Cool. Granted, my main bday celebration is this saturday which I told her way in advance and she said she would be attending. A few hours later she texted me a **** storm saying how I was shady to not have invited her and that she hoped it was worth ruining what we had. She said she needs to take a break and clear her mind (hahaha classic line) and don't bother hitting her up again . I just responded with: "wtf, really." Didn't hear back from her after. Before she basically broke up with me, she said that she might not be able to go on saturday because of work. I replied back that if she can't make it, I will go up and see her. She replied that she will be busy the rest of the week. This led to her blowing me off. I am not sure if she is bluffing because she was drunk or what. I have done everything for her. Paying for almost everything. Giving her gifts. Driving 40 minutes each way to see her every week. I really like her, but not sure if I can handle her emotional instability. Should I give her time and then call/text her or just move on? Any tips would be great. Sorry for the long essay haha.
Faruiza Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Man, you are a nice guy! Can I go out with you? Only joking. Seriously, most guys would run a mile at either of these instances. She has behaved totally unreasonably, spoilt, wanting your attention in a really ridiculous, immature way. I couldn't because I had a relative that was sick and in the hospital. She didn't care and basically just texted me a whole novel of how I didn't make the effort to see her. This shows she is just thinking of herself - you had a friend who was ill and this was all she could think of. It is amazing you want to be with this selfish drama queen. Maybe she is very pretty and used to getting her own way. But really, you must know she is being unreasonable. Please don't stop being lovely though - one girl will be really lucky and appreciate this patient quality you have.
fetish Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 My recent ex of 8 years kind of behaved in this same way. Very jealous and would always take me on an emotional rollar coaster ride. She'd put limitations on what i could do but when i tried to put limitations on what she liked to do, she would attack me or blow me off like I was nothing. Ooh that would p$$ me off! These type of people have personality disorders, maybe bi-polar which seems to be increasingly common these days. It's hard to draw boundaries with these types and you'll find yourself being driven crazy or turning yourself into someone for the worse. It may be best if you just let her go on right now before you get really hurt like I have.
Mcnulty Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Bi-polar...I hear that a lot on this site...A bit of an over used label I think. She's just a selfish little princess. You're well shot of her
Author psej20 Posted February 24, 2011 Author Posted February 24, 2011 I might have made a mistake by calling her the day after she broke up with me. It went straight to voicemail. I left her message and nothing yet. Time to move on.
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