LifesBeachy Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 I sent a sufficient email, I wouldn't say overly long... Last Thursday he asked me to meet up over the weekend -- Sunday (the 20th); however, I told him I had prior set plans. Then... well, I've heard nothing for almost a week. He did mentioned he'd be free the next weekend and the next. Does this imply he'll only be speaking with me on the weekends from now on? Or did I foul up ?? Should I re-message him? I don't mind 3 days waiting for an email... or maybe 4. But 6 is a bad sign?
oaks Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 He asked you out on a date on Sunday but you declined. I'm guessing he thinks you aren't interested.
glimmer Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 I sent a sufficient email, I wouldn't say overly long... Last Thursday he asked me to meet up over the weekend -- Sunday (the 20th); however, I told him I had prior set plans. Then... well, I've heard nothing for almost a week. He did mentioned he'd be free the next weekend and the next. Does this imply he'll only be speaking with me on the weekends from now on? Or did I foul up ?? Should I re-message him? I don't mind 3 days waiting for an email... or maybe 4. But 6 is a bad sign? Yeah you should just move on.
ReadyforLove Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Well, today's Wednesday, why not just give him a call to confirm the plans for this weekend?
Author LifesBeachy Posted February 23, 2011 Author Posted February 23, 2011 I sent him a small "Hope you've been well :)" message. IF he doesn't reply back by tonight, I'm marking off my weekend and not letting him make last minute plans.. And that way, I won't be sitting around worrying if he decides to respond... But if he happens to respond, well he should be a little swifter next time? I may then offer to call him if he asks me out and I tell him I have plans... I don't want him to think I'm brushing him off. But at the same time, I don't want to wonder about someone a full week anymore. I'm too antsy to call just yet. . . He was being really respectful and kind. I was/am interested, but if he turns out to be a jerk.... I won't speak with him anymore.
ReadyforLove Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 I sent him a small "Hope you've been well :)" message. IF he doesn't reply back by tonight, I'm marking off my weekend and not letting him make last minute plans.. And that way, I won't be sitting around worrying if he decides to respond... But if he happens to respond, well he should be a little swifter next time? I may then offer to call him if he asks me out and I tell him I have plans... I don't want him to think I'm brushing him off. But at the same time, I don't want to wonder about someone a full week anymore. I'm too antsy to call just yet. . . He was being really respectful and kind. I was/am interested, but if he turns out to be a jerk.... I won't speak with him anymore. Your message was a little vague, you shouldn't have just went straight to the point and asked about this weekend's plans. Do you only communicate with him via email? I agree, if he doesn't reply back or if he replies but doesn't mention meeting up then he probably isn't that interested.
Author LifesBeachy Posted February 23, 2011 Author Posted February 23, 2011 Right, I haven't called him yet... I just wanted to meet him first. Now if I call without him responding first, I'll just feel intrusive and callow. Well, I'd like to see him reply with something really detailed and lengthy. I trust that he's a busy man, but if he's going to ALWAYS wait 6-7 days to speak with me, well, he's too busy for me; that's just not the relationship I ever want again. Best case, he'll respond and tell in detail what he was up to. And I'll opt to move to the phone asap.. in re-reading my messages to him I suppose I might've been vague in those, as well. There's nothing I can do now except wait. With the age disparity, I'll just look bad if i keep contacting him sans him replying. And that may become annoying to him.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Right, I haven't called him yet... I just wanted to meet him first. Now if I call without him responding first, I'll just feel intrusive and callow. Well, I'd like to see him reply with something really detailed and lengthy. I trust that he's a busy man, but if he's going to ALWAYS wait 6-7 days to speak with me, well, he's too busy for me; that's just not the relationship I ever want again. Best case, he'll respond and tell in detail what he was up to. And I'll opt to move to the phone asap.. in re-reading my messages to him I suppose I might've been vague in those, as well. There's nothing I can do now except wait. With the age disparity, I'll just look bad if i keep contacting him sans him replying. And that may become annoying to him. Rule of thumb- No one is ever too busy to reply to a text.
Author LifesBeachy Posted February 23, 2011 Author Posted February 23, 2011 I can see that.... i thought i'd give him more margin of leeway since he's 59 though =\
Ay Diesel T Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 He's 59? Lmao. How old are you OP? I'd say he isn't interested. But you know, I had a thread similar to this and women were telling me "Oh she's just busy, chase her a little more". Do what you feel is right, and if you feel wronged by his actions, next him.
Author LifesBeachy Posted February 23, 2011 Author Posted February 23, 2011 I'm 29. and I just refreshed my email to see that he responded ... He said: "I am so sorry that I have not answered you before now. I have been busy, but that is no excuse!" Then goes on to answer a question I asked him about foreign language.. then the last paragraph he asks if I'm still free this Sunday. and says: "I would enjoy getting to know you over lunch or dinner, whatever is more convenient for you." I'm stepping out to eat now so I'll mull over my response to him... and bring up I'd like to speak on the phone... I don't want him to think I am wishing to speak because I am distrustful though.. On the phone, I should casually ask what he was into this week? That way, I can really see what he's been busy with.. if I find it isn't sufficient, I'll surely have to next him.
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