irc333 Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 I had recently gotten to know a woman that's recently widowed, not even a year since the death of her husband. I asked her to dinner and she accepted and I got her number. Are there anything I should be aware of when going out with a widowed woman? Anyone here ever go out with a widow?
glimmer Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 How recent? Does she have kids? If so I would be more concerned about how devastated her kids would be and how you could damage their life by coming on to the scene too quickly. If she doesn't have kids, through conversation try to assess if she's really ready to form a healthy emotional relationship with someone new. Use your best judgment, it might be different than what she actually says. I've seen that sometimes a widow needs an emotional rebound to help them through the grief. You may end up feeling like just a friend or a rebound.
Author irc333 Posted February 23, 2011 Author Posted February 23, 2011 Her kids are recent graduates actually, adults. How recent? Does she have kids? If so I would be more concerned about how devastated her kids would be and how you could damage their life by coming on to the scene too quickly. If she doesn't have kids, through conversation try to assess if she's really ready to form a healthy emotional relationship with someone new. Use your best judgment, it might be different than what she actually says. I've seen that sometimes a widow needs an emotional rebound to help them through the grief. You may end up feeling like just a friend or a rebound.
glimmer Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 If they're a close family and live in the same city or see each other often, tread wisely. If they're far enough away that they wouldn't know about Mom's new relationship/dating life, then okay. The other stuff I said still stands. Source: experience!!!!!!!!
Author irc333 Posted February 23, 2011 Author Posted February 23, 2011 She's actually rather local, and in a tight knit community AND family If they're a close family and live in the same city or see each other often, tread wisely. If they're far enough away that they wouldn't know about Mom's new relationship/dating life, then okay. The other stuff I said still stands. Source: experience!!!!!!!!
Cee Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 My mom was widowed at 46 and my siblings would have been thrilled if she ever dated again. She's in her late 60s and never had a boyfriend after my Dad. My aunt on the other hand married a man less than 2 years after her husband's death. Her children loved him and their step siblings. Sadly, he died a few years later. My aunt being double widowed was pretty horrible, but she is still close to her step children. I say that you go slow and allow your date to set the tone of the conversation. If she wants to talk of her late husband, let her. If she wants to keep the tone light and friendly, that's fine too. There are no mistakes to make except for the ones you'd make with any other date.
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