zeldi Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 The guy who I was seeing accused me of being a serial monogamist and subsequently dumped me on Feb 13. I admit it, I've never "just dated" before. I always became the girlfriend shortly after getting that "chemistry" moment so I guess, GF was really the only role I knew how to play. What are some usual dating tips you give to a person like me? I mean, I know my way around human bodies so I'm not exactly, "pure." But it does seem like I'm missing some key pieces of information in terms of what to do on dates. What exactly is normal dating etiquette? I find it all very convoluted and a bit disheartening. I'm use to just showing people who and what I am right away. But I have found out that too much honesty at first meeting may cause a false positive. False intimacy. It's something I'm working on.
Emilia Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 most people are serial monogamists. the guy sounds like a weirdo
EasyHeart Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Yeah, I'm confused by that point as well. Is serial monogamy a bad thing now? Am I supposed to always have some hot side-action? You kids with all your crazy labels confuse me. OP: I'm not sure what you mean by dating etiquette. My only real "rule" is to treat all of my dates with respect. Maybe you could tell us what you think it means, and we could tell you if we agree or disagree?
Imajerk17 Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 (edited) I think what he might mean is, do you have any standards, or do you just fall into the lap of the first bloke who comes along? Do you really know anything about these guys before you become their girlfriend? Kind of needy, if you ask me. It could be why a lot of women on here make so many bad choices/end up with losers when it comes to relationships. Edited February 23, 2011 by Imajerk17
xpaperxcutx Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 I think what he might mean is, do you have any standards, or do you just fall into the lap of the first bloke who comes along? Do you really know anything about these guys before you become their girlfriend? Kind of needy, if you ask me. It could be why a lot of women on here make so many bad choices/end up with losers when it comes to relationships. Which part of her inclination for serial " monogamy" indicates neediness? If anything, the OP needs to be open to options and stop settling for the first guy that comes along.
Imajerk17 Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Which part of her inclination for serial " monogamy" indicates neediness? If anything, the OP needs to be open to options and stop settling for the first guy that comes along. Reread my post. That's exactly what I said.
Trimmer Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 I think what he might mean is, do you have any standards, or do you just fall into the lap of the first bloke who comes along? Do you really know anything about these guys before you become their girlfriend? Kind of needy, if you ask me. It could be why a lot of women on here make so many bad choices/end up with losers when it comes to relationships. I think you're stretching quite a bit beyond what the information in the OP indicates. I don't know where you are getting these inferences from that post.
Hero36 Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Actually, you don't need a guy telling you what to do...if he doesn't like your choices with men, that's his problem. Some men need to accept that all women are not the same.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Reread my post. That's exactly what I said. Well your choice of wording is wrong.
Trimmer Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 I think you're stretching quite a bit beyond what the information in the OP indicates. I don't know where you are getting these inferences from that post. Never mind. I misread the OP. Too late to edit. Disregard.
Imajerk17 Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Well your choice of wording is wrong. No, my choice of wording is spot on. Going for the first man to fall into your lap is needy, and others can pick up on that. Just as I wrote it.
Author zeldi Posted February 26, 2011 Author Posted February 26, 2011 I have to say that I am not the kind of girl that settles for just the first guy that gives me a slight bit of attention. He was up to my standards and so, I wanted to keep around. I have a bit of anger towards the whole thing, mostly at myself for not leaving sooner. The guy was giving me a bunch of mix messages, saying and doing things that made it seem like he wanted a relationship or wanted me around more... But what is done is done, I'm here now alone and looking for advice on my transition into the dating world. So far, most of the guys are not up to par with what I want. Maybe I need to look in a different place. Where's a good place to meet people?
Author zeldi Posted February 26, 2011 Author Posted February 26, 2011 OP: I'm not sure what you mean by dating etiquette. My only real "rule" is to treat all of my dates with respect. Maybe you could tell us what you think it means, and we could tell you if we agree or disagree? Well, I guess I'm just confused by what happened with this guy. Mostly coping now. I think I'm just looking for advice on how to move on from this guy and move back into the dating scene...meeting people and enjoying good food.
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