Snedfedsed Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Hey, first post here. I'm just going to copy/paste what I put on another thread for you guys to read. ~~~ I know it's a lot to read, but it would make you understand the situation a lot better. I also posted this same thread on HF. I need all the input I can get. Basically I met this girl at the mall one day when all of our friends were hanging out. I started talking to her and it went pretty well. This was back in december. We got pretty close. I would flirt with her, and say things like "im going to kidnap you and never let you leave" , which she responds " alright I wont resist, but only if you let me kidnap you later!" We always hugged and crap, and our first few encounters where we waved to each other ended up as interlocking hands. Like literally we would be maybe a few inches away from each other and wave like retards, then lock hands together. She asked me if I had a free period during my day and asked me if I would switch into her gym class, which I said no sorry it would fudge up my schedule. She asked me a few times too. I asked her if she wanted to hang 3 times. 3 freakin TIMES. SHE SAID YES TO EACH TIME. 1st time we couldn't because of a blizzard, 2nd time was chineese new year. 3rd time was because of some stupid reason. One day I when I was hugging her, I literally started walking away but she wouldnt let go, resulting in her clinging to me as im walking down the hallway. Apparently she was laughing her ass off or so my friends said. For ****s sake, we even hugged backwards. Alright, I'm not implying that hugging means im getting somewhere. Some women just hug for the hell of it. It was pretty much like this until a week before valentines day. She guessed that I liked her, and I told her I did (was so alpha until now.Beta****k) She told me "I can't like anyone and no one can like me." "I can't love you." etc. I'm like, I don't love you, I like you. 2 days ago me and my friends were all hanging by the bay at sunset, and out of all the people there, she decides to sit next to me. I didn't really talk to her that much that day until later on. I don't understand. Ever since that ****ty day, she didn't really talk to me that much. Yet She has no problem lying down against me, digging her head into my neck, and letting me hold her by the waist like a couple would. PLUS THE FACT THAT SHE KNOWS SHE LIKES ME MAKES IT EVEN WEIRDER. Since we were hanging out on the rocks ( the rocks basically petruded out from the ground, out into the bay about a good 300 feet.) it was kinda hard for us to walk over the rocks. It was basically like a balance game. She looked like she was having a hard time, so I offered my hand. She gladly took it and held on until we reached the end. At points, she didn't even need to hold onto my hand, but she just did. I also tried grabbing something from one of my friends. I reached across in front of her, extending my arm, and she just grabbed onto my arm with both hands and held it down. After that, everyone else had to leave. It was just me and the girl, and I live the same direction she does. Before we went separate ways we hugged and yup. She said that "She can't like anyone and no one can like her", and that she felt really bad that I liked her, yet she still acts like this, even after knowing I like her. She isn't the type of person to fudge with anybody. Seriously. I know that women do this, but I know all of her friends, who happen to be my closest friends. We all know and agree that she would never do that. But seriously, what the fudge. ~~~ im the one that initiates everything. Im the one that told her she could fall asleep on me. I was the one that offered her my hand. She even let me grab hold of her wrists, something women dont let anyone do. Shes not really initiating any contact, she just goes along with it and seems to enjoy it. The best part, is that no one else can do this to her besides her close girlfriends. ~~~ Im confused. Is there a possibility that she likes me even though she told me otherwise?
somethingsimple Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Anyways, here is my advice. Stopping being a beta, and just make a move. Actions speak louder than words then you'll know. Take it, its yours!
Author Snedfedsed Posted February 23, 2011 Author Posted February 23, 2011 I haven't been a beta the entire time I knew her. I haven't shown her that I am a beta. She's like this around me, but somewhat rejected me. How can I pull this off...
Olivia1966 Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Have you asked her *why* she can't like you and you can't like her? If so, what did she say?
somethingsimple Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Just when you guys are having one of those cuddle sessions. Look confidently into eyes, and just land one on her. The key is confidence, when I go for it, I always think she wants it more than I do and that I'm doing her a favor. Don't even think about the scenario of failure! Remember, as the guy you have to make all the moves, don't give me that there wasn't an opening bullcrap..make one.
Author Snedfedsed Posted February 24, 2011 Author Posted February 24, 2011 Have you asked her *why* she can't like you and you can't like her? If so, what did she say? I didn't ask her why. At the time, I didn't want to bother her. She was having a rough day as it was, and she was also distant from me that day. Just when you guys are having one of those cuddle sessions. Look confidently into eyes, and just land one on her. The key is confidence, when I go for it, I always think she wants it more than I do and that I'm doing her a favor. Don't even think about the scenario of failure! Remember, as the guy you have to make all the moves, don't give me that there wasn't an opening bullcrap..make one. I'm definitely not going to do that, sorry. Maybe if I wasn't in the situation I was in, sure, but that's not going to happen anytime soon.
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