rich46 Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Hi, Quick recap. Long distance relationship with Japanese girl. 8 months. I lived in Korea but moved to a different part of Japan last August. So still long distance. I was planning to move closer to her next month but she got cold feet and started distancing, asking for "time and space" etc. I told her I couldn't maintain contact and be strung along, so in November started NC. A few blips on both of our parts, but last contact was 1st January when I texted Happy New Year and she replied within 30 minutes. Anyway, straight after the last contact, I deleted her number, blocked her on MSN and deleted all old photos from my phone. I started dating girls and had a couple of dates in Tokyo a few weeks ago. One such girl is going well, and as it happens, this evening I have been arranging a trip with her on MSN for April...as in a weekend getaway. She asked if I was ok reserving a double room, and of course I am happy with that. Now... Within an hour of this, I got a text from my ex! It's like they know you are moving on! It simply said "Hey are your friends in New Zealand ok??" which is because i lived in NZ for one year, and there was a huge earthquake there today. I had to check who it was as I don't recognise her number anymore! I admit that my heart was racing for about 30 seconds, but my gut reaction is to ignore it. It is tough for me and goes against my nature, but surely she isn't that concerend about my "friends in NZ" and is just using this as a chance to keep me dangling/hanging on/test the waters. So any advice? Reply or keep moving on? Thanks everyone... Rich
kimflute26 Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Definitely don't reply. Will be interesting to see if she says anything else.
nandoschicken Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 i agree man, don't reply. what you said is right, she's only stringing you along cos i don't think she likes the idea of you moving on. Leave it be. Let her chase you
Author rich46 Posted February 24, 2011 Author Posted February 24, 2011 Thanks for your replies! I haven't replied to her text...going to keep moving forward. I've had this happen twice now with different girls. How do they know to contact just as you are moving on?? Uncanny.
radiodarcy Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 . How do they know to contact just as you are moving on?? Uncanny. i wish i knew. i thought i was completely over him after 3 months of NC - - until he contacted me two weeks ago; super flirty and friendly. thought i could handle being back in touch but sure enough i fell for him all over again. we talked every day until he disappeared off the radar a week ago; stopped returning my texts, etc. and now i'm right back where i started you definitely made the right call in not responding to her.
Author rich46 Posted February 25, 2011 Author Posted February 25, 2011 i wish i knew. i thought i was completely over him after 3 months of NC - - until he contacted me two weeks ago; super flirty and friendly. thought i could handle being back in touch but sure enough i fell for him all over again. we talked every day until he disappeared off the radar a week ago; stopped returning my texts, etc. and now i'm right back where i started you definitely made the right call in not responding to her. thanks for the reassuring words, much appreciated. It is sooooo selfish of them to just reappear, and disappear just as quickly. In some way though, it should help you to move on because you get to see your ex in a real light, not the often heightened view we have of them. It is purely selfish behaviour to keep you dangling on a string, and I don't want that kind of partner anyway.
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