Mixed28 Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Most of you know my story first gf dated 2 months got dumped in November too clingy blah blah blah. Its been 3 months and I am mostly healed first month I woke up hurt went to bed hurt. I dreamed about her for like 2 months. Now I am fine but when I see her in person it hurts a little especially when shes with her new guy. She is VERY attractive and had an awesome personality so it sucked but ther are many other girls who look good and have great personaltities but my main question is, is Complete and utter indifference possible towards an ex especially a first love? I wish I could completely wipe out any feelings towards her. I am fine just seeing her in person hurts a little.
D78 Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 I am completely indifferent towards my first love. It's possible, but it takes time. Good luck.
0hpenelope Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 I am completely indifferent to the ex-ex that brought me to LS.
depplover_1980 Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Oh yeah it's possible. One day you will just either look back and fondly smile, or think 'why was I even upset!'. Fact.
thisguyagain Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 I can't wait for the day I see her and feel nothing. Sadly, I don't think that day is ever going to come though. I think you'll always feel something, it's like an emotional scar. Just call me Mr Pessimist!
thisguyagain Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Forget what I said. Listen to the guys above. It's made me feel better about myself
Hero36 Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Well, you cannot erase your feelings but you can control what you show. I'd recommend that you keep your feelings for yourself.
D78 Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 I read something the other day that basically said "Remember that time five years ago you were so upset about that thing? Does it matter today?" I couldn't think of one thing that mattered today. We will get through this with our ninja skills
depplover_1980 Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Nice one D, 5 years ago nothing that happened matters anymore. If it still does that is due to the person having serious issues and help being required!
Tofu Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 I think it can be done sure, wouldnt have thought that early on when i broke up with my ex but after over 2weeks of NC and 1 breadcrumb biting, focusing on the things she did wrong in our relationship and with the great support from my mates and the awesome people here at LS i can honestly say it can be done. You can live without your ex, they are not essential in what makes you truely happy especially if they were stupid enough to not put your relationship first and try working things out. Youll have memories of them, these cant be erased so easily but all you can do is try and reach a point where thinking bout them wont bother you and if they still do then do a 180 on your mind and focus on something else. Thankfully our brains can only focus on 1 concious thought at anytime so go random and think bout something else, as tempting as it is to ponder more bout an ex your only gonna drive yourself nuts. Think to yourself 'With each day that passes Im growing better and stronger' over time you will reach a point where youll wonder why on earth you were so down bout this, take this relationship as experience to better your future ones
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