lastresort Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Tonight my, i guess you can still call her my wife, came over to watch the kids while i went and played in my dart league, I know i am a dork. One of the major reasons she left was because i didn't help keep the house clean enough for her. I have really been kicking butt trying to keep this place clean. Tonight She tells me she cant believe what a mess the house was when she came over and if that was the best i could do, that is why she can't stay married to me. My response was sorry, 4 weeks ago my wife left me with the house and 2 kids to take care of and i am still adjusting and now i see how much work it takes to keep the house clean and kids taken care of. She then accused me of mocking her. What really made me mad was when she said she was thinking of giving me a second chance but because i proved that i can't take care of the house and myself she can't come back. I have tried so hard over the last month to figure this life out. I had a good weekend, i was feeling good, i know it hasn't been long but i was starting to feel a little adjustment. I think every time she sees that she has to knock me down. Sorry for the rant just very angry. Take care everyone...
xpaperxcutx Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 A divorce would have be avoided if the two of you planned and divided the household affairs.... She gets Monday Tues, and Weds, you get the next three days and Sunday, the both of you get the day off. Now, is that so hard?
Trimmer Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 (edited) ... she said she was thinking of giving me a second chance but because i proved that i can't take care of the house and myself she can't come back. A divorce would have be avoided if the two of you planned and divided the household affairs.... Now, is that so hard? No, I think actually that is probably too simple. I wouldn't be surprised if there's something more to it than that. Not only do I think she is hiding (or refusing to deal openly with) something that is really more of an issue in your marriage than housework, but she is toying with you by dangling the prospect of reconciliation, and then snatching it back on the basis of how well you do or don't accomplish housework on your own? Not to denigrate the importance and difficulty of domestic work, the importance of sharing it, coming to agreements on how to get it all done, or the frustration that some women feel about this issue, but something just doesn't smell right here. There are more layers to this, I bet. Edited February 23, 2011 by Trimmer
Author lastresort Posted February 23, 2011 Author Posted February 23, 2011 I agree that the household chores could have been divided better, or at all. I did do stuff, took care of yard, cooking, kitchen. The problem is she is off work at 1:30pm and would get home and clean the house completely, everyday, before i got home at 5:30. Then i would cook and i work most weekends so when the serious cleaning needed done i had to work. the main thing that really hurts is when she says i was thinking of giving you a second chance. I think that is crap that she can hang that out there.
Author lastresort Posted February 23, 2011 Author Posted February 23, 2011 A divorce would have be avoided if the two of you planned and divided the household affairs.... She gets Monday Tues, and Weds, you get the next three days and Sunday, the both of you get the day off. Now, is that so hard? not sure if that would have saved the marriage, just excuses she likes to use. She knows and admits it was her fault as well. We actually communicate pretty good at this time as long as no one brings up the relationship.
notagame Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 You might want to search and make sure she isn't cheating.
2.50 a gallon Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 I've read your posts. She is playing head games with you. There was no second chance. And if there was, give it another couple of years and she will be playing the same game She is not trying to meet you half way Be done with her
PegNosePete Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 People do not get divorced because of a messy house. There is another reason that she is not telling you.
What_Next Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 I tend to agree, there is something more below the surface here.
Lucky_One Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 She left her kids? Most mothers won't leave a marriage if it means leaving their children behind. There has to be another reason to divorce besides a messy house.
Darth Vader Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 Om........... Agreed, she's screwing around on ya! Divorce her ass and go for custody of the children, ask your lawyer about going for Abandonment on her part!
Darth Vader Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 I tend to agree, there is something more below the surface here. Orgasmic sex with an OM?
robf1971 Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 One of the major reasons she left was because i didn't help keep the house clean enough for her. .. I smell bovine excrement
robf1971 Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 What really made me mad was when she said she was thinking of giving me a second chance ... Man that is so script, shakespear himself could have written it..
russell1968 Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 Man that is so script, shakespear himself could have written it.. I had the same thing said to me last week....
dommorsp Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 Please tell us about you and your future goals. Thanks!
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