College Student Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 So..After my girlfriend dumped me after a two year relationship its been about two months now and im still having a tough time getting over her. And yes, not to sound too shallow, but one of the toughest parts.. no more sex. Sex was such a huge stress relief for me.. At first i was okay without it.. but its been over 2 months and is getting tough now, especially after I was so used to having it constantly. Im not the type of guy to just hook up and find random girls either.. im a little shy, and not the kind of guy girls just look to hook up with anyways. But after 2 years of constant sex, its really starting to suck to go without it! I would feel too awful to use someone just as a rebound.. but I think thats what I really need unfortunatly.
fiat500 Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 (edited) rebounds are unfortunate. If you must do it and see no other option PLEASE, PLEASE make sure the person knows where you stand and that they are just a rebound. PLEASE. also since you are in college, isn't it relatively easy to pick up a girlfriend or rebound there? just saying. having a social life in college is relatively more easier than having one in the real world. my ex picked up a sparkly new girl right after dumping me since he is living away at university. Edited February 23, 2011 by fiat500
screwball Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Why not just friends with benefits...then at least there's no emotional connection or guilt on your part.
Kamille Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 What about a little self-love? Couldn't masturbation help you with some of that stress release?
martyjones47 Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 What about a little self-love? Couldn't masturbation help you with some of that stress release? No Kidding. I've gone YEARS without sex ( especially after breakup of long relationships), and plenty of people I know have. And just about everyone gets a release without the need of complicating things with another person.
stopthemadness Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Ya am with them who say you can help your self with that"problem". That way no one else gets hurt and it dont mess with your head. Sex is great when your in a relationship, but its a real pain in the ass when you start getten other people involved that you really dont have feelings for. When you do that everyone gets hurt.
USMCHokie Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 What about a little self-love? Couldn't masturbation help you with some of that stress release? This. -----
Lemontang Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 If your after a person because you crave the physical contact and don't want to get emotionally involved, hurt their feelings etc just get an escort. I know some people find that taboo, but really it's just business. A girl I know from school used to do it purely because she loved sex and didn't want a relationship, and since she loved it so much she figured she may as well get paid for it, she was pretty high class too mixing with some real socialite/media personality circles. But for the love of your own health don't get one off a street corner.
radiodarcy Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 it's been six months since i've got any but i just use toys. no substitute for the real thing - - but it works for me. i'd rather do that than try the rebound thing - - esp since i was used as one and that didn't feel so great not sure what they have available in the way of toys for men but that could be another option if masturbation starts to get old.
Author College Student Posted February 23, 2011 Author Posted February 23, 2011 Unfortunatly masturbation isnt the same.. and i will never put someone through the emotional trauma that i am dealing with now. Thus, I would never use someone as a rebound... unless they were using the me for the same. But thanks for all the input.
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