First date went great, but now she gives off the feeling that she's not into me?!

[dRuds555]

I'm 17 and i took this girl out on a date to the movies that i met at the mall last week. She laughed at lots of stuff i said, laughed even when i wasnt trying to be funny, bumped into me constantly, and let me put my arm around her doing the movie(and she layed on my shoulder when i did that) after she seemed happy, and when i put my arm around her she put her arm around me and complimented my strong back lol. She said she had a good time and was glad i did. But all of a sudden the next few days (yesterday and today) she hasnt seemed that into me. I have to start all the convo's and she responds in only short unenthusiastic phrases. I asked her if i did something wrong but she said that shes just in a bad mood and that she'd talk to me tomorrow. Help?? Did i do something wrong? Should i wait?? what should i do? I don't know for sure that she was telling the truth about the bad mood thing.

[SincereOnlineGuy]

Whatever you do, tryyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy to resist the urge to leap to 'action' in response to this.

 

It does sound like you had quite a pleasant time on your date with her, and the best chance for a repeat involves you NOT being/seeming too clingy now.

 

For all we know, she may have since, finally gotten romantic attention from somebody she's been crushing on for years, and that has her thoughts divided.

 

Nothing says that the mythical crush I mentioned will continue to be intrigued by her, and if you're still around, without having ruined your own standing by being/seeming too clingy... then there is a chance that she would rediscover you.

 

IF there is no such other male interest in her world, there are a million things that could be happening behind the scenes in her family life, which may have inspired her aloof-seeming ways.

 

Just don't go for broke yet, when you don't need to. Play it cool and be sincere when you see her without being clingy.

[Lilmisus]

I'm 17 and i took this girl out on a date to the movies that i met at the mall last week. She laughed at lots of stuff i said, laughed even when i wasnt trying to be funny, bumped into me constantly, and let me put my arm around her doing the movie(and she layed on my shoulder when i did that) after she seemed happy, and when i put my arm around her she put her arm around me and complimented my strong back lol. She said she had a good time and was glad i did. But all of a sudden the next few days (yesterday and today) she hasnt seemed that into me. I have to start all the convo's and she responds in only short unenthusiastic phrases. I asked her if i did something wrong but she said that shes just in a bad mood and that she'd talk to me tomorrow. Help?? Did i do something wrong? Should i wait?? what should i do? I don't know for sure that she was telling the truth about the bad mood thing.

 

Don't give up on her whatever you do. The first date went great, she was obviously into you, and just because the past couple days have been far less than ideal doesn't mean that she's suddenly not into you any more. One popular option is she could be PMSing, which can make any girl seem like a monster to anybody who's around her. I say stay close by - not clingy of course - and let her see that you're still into her for a bit, but not too much so to where you lose her spark of interest that she has for you. (Remember, you always want to keep some mystery for the girl, and not be too available or jump any time she comes calling. Too many guys screw that part up, in that they're not as 'mysterious' as they should be, or they just come across as jerks, neither of which you want.)

 

She said that she'd talk to you tomorrow, wait till tomorrow and see how it goes. See how the next couple days go, and if she's still sending off bad vibes, than you need to back off and take it as a sign that she's really just not as interested as she originally seemed to be. Teenage girls are confusing, I know, I used to be one.

[Fondue]

She's giving a bitch test. Seeing if you'll fall into her trap.

 

She's deliberately trying to make you chase her more and kiss her feet. Trying to see how low of a level you will stoop to. If you go too far, she'll lose all respect for you and you'll have no shot.

 

I would just pretend like I simply don't give a ****. In fact, make it seem like you're having the time of your life right now, and you could care less what she thinks of you. Even better if you can act like the man around other women. Showing her that you can get other girls and she's just like anyone else to you.

 

I know my advice sounds like I'm a giant *******, but I'm not. It's just the truth. High School girls are like that. They're trying to prove their own worth by seeing how much you'll chase them. It's just the nature of things. Best thing is to not care and throw it back at her.

[pantherj]

Start looking for other girls to date. Flirt with them, chat them up, and ask for a date. If she becomes interested again, then make her earn your attention. If you never hear from her again, so be it. You're a man, not a needy little boy.

 

When you go on a date, you need to flirt as much as possible in order to create a sexual chemistry and energy. Talking like you're friends is irrelevant. Telling jokes is irrelevant. Making her laugh means you're funny. So what? Who told you girls go for funny guys? They lied. Girls won't date you because you're funny. Lots of guys are funny, and single. She will forget you and your jokes before she even gets home. You need to flirt with her in a way that turns her on. If you don't make her horny for you on the date, then you have failed. It's your responsibilty to press the issue and flirt and get physical. It's her responsiblity to set boundaries and back you off if you go to far. You are not being 'bad', or moving too fast, you're being a stud who gets what he wants.

 

I didn't make the rules. I learned them from women. They will teach you soon enough, or you can learn from my post and be winner. Avoid the heartache of doting over girls who lost interest, and become a man.