PelicanPete Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Let me first say these forums are a very helpful and a great resource for giving people emotional advice and soothing them through rough times. I'm not saying that this is a bad place to go when you need help dealing with a breakup, because it helped me through it and I appreciate everyones advice. However from what I noticed it is easy to get caught up in these forums after your breakup. When the break up was still fresh for me everytime I came on these forums it was a reminder of my break up which prevented me from moving on. It was simple to look through the forums and try to find similar stories and relate to them, but when I was thinking of those similar stories it also reminded me of the experience I just went through. I'm not saying everyone is like this, but I'm sure there are some people who are frequent forum users and still have trouble accepting their breakup however long ago it was. If you haven't or you are still trying to move on it can be a reminder to why you came here in the first place which may not be helping your case. So for those people who may be experiencing the same thing I experienced, leave the nest and take that journey of self discovery. You can use these forums as a guide but not as a manual, in the end you are the one that has to throw the past relationship off your conscious. When you have fully moved on you will become even more helpful to the people seeking advice.
depplover_1980 Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 I don't think it's that Pete, I think people join here and then realise they really like forums and stick around. I already knew I was a forum addict, but had I not, then discovering this would have converted me!!
makelemonade1974 Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 What these forums do is save your real life friends from having to listen to you b**ch about your ex constantly. That way you get to keep your real life friends.
Tofu Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 What these forums do is save your real life friends from having to listen to you b**ch about your ex constantly. That way you get to keep your real life friends. Haha so so true, spent the weekend at my mates for 2 days and pretty much every moment we had nothing to talk about i would spring some questions about my ex and as helpful as he was with the advice i could tell he was growing tired with it all. Thank god theres LS to spare our mates from further torture
Author PelicanPete Posted February 23, 2011 Author Posted February 23, 2011 Like I said I'm not saying it applies to everyone. This forum is a good place to vent and complain about all of the emotions you feel so your real life friends don't have to endure it. There comes a point though when it is time to stop dwelling and talking about it and move forward and really begin to move on. When I would be looking at the forums all the time reading other peoples stories it would remind me of why I came here in the first place, soon I was thinking of the ex, and it would slowly evolve. Even though I was doing NC and pushed my ex out of my life I was still thinking about it a lot because I kept returning here. Maybe it's just me, I just wanted to share what I noticed with myself and maybe it would help someone who may be possibly experiencing the same thing.
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