Kamille Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Hi sweetie :love:! After a long solid campaign on his side, boyfriend has finally worn me out and I decided to tell him who I was on Loveshack. He spent the last few days reading up on "Kamille", and apparently, apart from too much flirting with a certain robot, hasn't found anything too concerning. I feel relieved, kind of like I passed a test! Phew. In a strange way, it kind of feels like a relief that he read everything about me on here and is still really into me. What about you guys? Do your SOs know who you are on LS? How has it impacted your relationships?
sb129 Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Whoa K you are brave! H knows my username, as far as I know he hasn't ever looked up any of my posts. Most of the early ones were about my ex anyway and I don't think he wants to know about that.
vanillaskies Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Hey Kamille, Well, unlike your successful story, mine was the opposite. When I felt like I couldn't talk to my SO I came on here for advice. And unbeknownst to me I didn't realize he been reading my post for over a month or so. Well needless to say he got very upset, and we broke up for a few weeks. I still feel like I couldn't reveal my true self... ever.........
Ay Diesel T Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Did she tell you she sent me naked pics? Lol I kid I kid. Hats off to you Kamille.
threebyfate Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Way to go Kamille! It does feel good to fess up since it creates more trust between the two of you. H. has known about LS forever and finds it strange that I post here. But his ego loved the thread about himself when we first met!
fishtaco Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Wow really? That's interesting. Personally I feel it's not necessary. This is not a dating site. This is a site for people to come and rant and blow off some steam. Or ask questions. I've been on and off here for a long time. Usually when I'm in a serious relationship, I won't be here. But I've never told my previous GF's that I was here. And I'm not going to either. I probably sound like a douche for saying this, but everyone here on LS that I have interacted with, are all random internet strangers. Some are nice, some are funny, some are intelligent, some not so much, but there's no connection, and no relevancy to my real life. Which is the reason I come here to rant and rave. But my GF will see my facebook. I have nothing to hide. Those are connected to my real life and my friends. This is just a disconnected little pocket of a virtual world.
anne1707 Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 My H and I both post on LS. We keep half an eye open for each other's posts but do try to avoid posting in the same threads (unless it's a silly or something we both feel very strongly about).
Author Kamille Posted February 23, 2011 Author Posted February 23, 2011 Whoa K you are brave! H knows my username, as far as I know he hasn't ever looked up any of my posts. Most of the early ones were about my ex anyway and I don't think he wants to know about that. Really??? He's a super hero! How could he not even want to take a look? Hey Kamille, Well, unlike your successful story, mine was the opposite. When I felt like I couldn't talk to my SO I came on here for advice. And unbeknownst to me I didn't realize he been reading my post for over a month or so. Well needless to say he got very upset, and we broke up for a few weeks. I still feel like I couldn't reveal my true self... ever......... That's terrible NS, especially the part about you not feeling like you can reveal your true self. ((vanillaskies)). At the beginning of my relationship with boyfriend, I had decided that anything I discussed on here, I should be able to discuss with him in person. That's probably why it went rather smoothly. It also meant that I was going to find out whether or not we were truly compatible. I strongly recommend others do the same, whenever possible. Did she tell you she sent me naked pics? Lol I kid I kid. Hats off to you Kamille. Troublemaker! Allegedly I once asked a certain robot to post naked pictures of himself. You might have struck a chord ADT. Hope I'm not in trouble now!
SmileFace Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Do your SOs know who you are on LS? My who? ............ Lol I don't think I would care but I probably won't share my username with a S.O.
Author Kamille Posted February 23, 2011 Author Posted February 23, 2011 Way to go Kamille! It does feel good to fess up since it creates more trust between the two of you. H. has known about LS forever and finds it strange that I post here. But his ego loved the thread about himself when we first met! I bet! That was a great thread! Your hubby is a lucky man. Wow really? That's interesting. Personally I feel it's not necessary. This is not a dating site. This is a site for people to come and rant and blow off some steam. Or ask questions. I've been on and off here for a long time. Usually when I'm in a serious relationship, I won't be here. But I've never told my previous GF's that I was here. And I'm not going to either. I probably sound like a douche for saying this, but everyone here on LS that I have interacted with, are all random internet strangers. Some are nice, some are funny, some are intelligent, some not so much, but there's no connection, and no relevancy to my real life. Which is the reason I come here to rant and rave. But my GF will see my facebook. I have nothing to hide. Those are connected to my real life and my friends. This is just a disconnected little pocket of a virtual world. I'll be honest, at first I was dead set against telling him my ID, because I considered LS to be my little private pocket of a virtual world. But LS is important to me and I often talk about issues I discuss on here. He got more and more curious and in the last few weeks, started trying to guess who I was on here. (He has yet to join. He says he feels it would be too addictive.) My H and I both post on LS. We keep half an eye open for each other's posts but do try to avoid posting in the same threads (unless it's a silly or something we both feel very strongly about). Cute! May I ask who found the site first?
heartshaped Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 I don't feel it's necessary for him to read my posts on here. Any threads I've started are about issues that we've already discussed and I don't see what he could get out of reading my responses to other people's posts. If he did ask about it though, I'd give it to him. He has the info for my blog which is way more personal, but he doesn't read it to my knowledge.
Untouchable_Fire Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Hi sweetie :love:! After a long solid campaign on his side, boyfriend has finally worn me out and I decided to tell him who I was on Loveshack. He spent the last few days reading up on "Kamille", and apparently, apart from too much flirting with a certain robot, hasn't found anything too concerning. I feel relieved, kind of like I passed a test! Phew. In a strange way, it kind of feels like a relief that he read everything about me on here and is still really into me. What about you guys? Do your SOs know who you are on LS? How has it impacted your relationships? No way! I would never do that. In real life I am high energy, upbeat and positive. In LS, I tend to vent the more unhappy feelings. It would leave the wrong impression. I am not fake in real life, nor am I fake here. It's just the part of me I choose to express the most provided the context.
anne1707 Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Cute! May I ask who found the site first? Not so cute really! I found the site when we were having major major problems and he eventually joined to see what I was posting and to also contribute to the dicussion. However it also became part of the healing process for us both and here we still are. Because we both post here now, there are some things we will not disclose our of respect for each other (just as you would not b*tch about your partner to a mutual friend). All in all, we try to be open that we are married to each other if we are posting in the same thread or holding back on things we could say because of our relationship. He's Wuggle - with a U not an O
blind_otter Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 I remember many years ago this weird thread where two people in the same couple were posting to each other and also to everyone else.... Good for you, K!
Author Kamille Posted February 23, 2011 Author Posted February 23, 2011 No way! I would never do that. In real life I am high energy, upbeat and positive. In LS, I tend to vent the more unhappy feelings. It would leave the wrong impression. I am not fake in real life, nor am I fake here. It's just the part of me I choose to express the most provided the context. Oh yes. There were a few threads I was worried about, the ones when I came here to vent in frustration. Turns out he fully understands people need to vent once in awhile. I told him now because I feel like we've really reached a great level of communication together, where we're starting to be more accepting of each other's "darker" side. Not so cute really! I found the site when we were having major major problems and he eventually joined to see what I was posting and to also contribute to the dicussion. However it also became part of the healing process for us both and here we still are. Because we both post here now, there are some things we will not disclose our of respect for each other (just as you would not b*tch about your partner to a mutual friend). All in all, we try to be open that we are married to each other if we are posting in the same thread or holding back on things we could say because of our relationship. He's Wuggle - with a U not an O Wuggle - Another cute LS couple (Pyro and CE being the other one I know about). I had no idea you two were married. I'm glad LS eventually helped you deal with the issues.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Hi sweetie :love:! After a long solid campaign on his side, boyfriend has finally worn me out and I decided to tell him who I was on Loveshack. He spent the last few days reading up on "Kamille", and apparently, apart from too much flirting with a certain robot, hasn't found anything too concerning. I feel relieved, kind of like I passed a test! Phew. In a strange way, it kind of feels like a relief that he read everything about me on here and is still really into me. What about you guys? Do your SOs know who you are on LS? How has it impacted your relationships? The last "few days"... that would require roughly 2000 entries per day!!! You will remain completely vulnerable until he covers every one of them.
Author Kamille Posted February 23, 2011 Author Posted February 23, 2011 I remember many years ago this weird thread where two people in the same couple were posting to each other and also to everyone else.... Good for you, K! Was it Anne and Wuggles? When I first joined, this guy proposed on his GF through LS. I wonder if I could manage to find the thread. (ps, sweetie: it's been done. No using LS to propose .)
Knittress Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 I value my anonymity and would never do that in a million-billion years. To be honest, I find the whole idea a bit creepy and big-brotherish. It's like handing over a key to your innermost thoughts, serious and passing, and saying "Have at it! Scrutinize! Judge me!" We all need our private psychic space. No. Nope. So would never happen. Also, I like the fact that I'm just this name. I can be thoughtful, flippant, sweet, or in a total bitch-mood, and I can express that without having to frame things in context, and list the subtle nuances of this-that-and-the-other. With real people in your real life, you have to explain your gray areas and give whole pictures. It's tedious! Here I can be just a name in the moment, and not have to worry about "zOMG, all-that-I-am-and-ever-was, my ESSENCE, blah." Why Kamille, WHY?
Author Kamille Posted February 23, 2011 Author Posted February 23, 2011 The last "few days"... that would require roughly 2000 entries per day!!! You will remain completely vulnerable until he covers every one of them. I know how many posts he covered. He covered our entire relationship. I saw him read some of the threads (it was torture!) and I must admit, he had a great speed browsing technique.
Author Kamille Posted February 23, 2011 Author Posted February 23, 2011 Also, I like the fact that I'm just this name. I can be thoughtful, flippant, sweet, or in a total bitch-mood, and I can express that without having to frame things in context, and list the subtle nuances of this-that-and-the-other. With real people in your real life, you have to explain your gray areas and give whole pictures. It's tedious! Here I can be just a name in the moment, and not have to worry about "zOMG, all-that-I-am-and-ever-was, my ESSENCE, blah." Why Kamille, WHY? hmmm... I guess because I'm pretty much the same on here as I am in real life. In fact, I would say I probably come off way better on here than I do in real life ! Here I have time to articulate my thoughts. In real life I tend to blurt it all out.
alphamale Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 After a long solid campaign on his side, boyfriend has finally worn me out and I decided to tell him who I was on Loveshack. thats a bit weird and could blow up in your face
xpaperxcutx Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 My girlfriend knows I use this site, but I don't really know if she spends her spare time reading my posts....
Author Kamille Posted February 23, 2011 Author Posted February 23, 2011 I wonder... If you knew your bf or gf posted on LS, would you want to know who they were? If you knew who they were, would you read their threads? I know I probably would. I mean, unless I made a solid promise not to snoop, I probably would check what they were up to once in awhile.
threebyfate Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 thats a bit weird and could blow up in your faceWeird in what way? Weird that she told him or that he was curious enough to continue asking? It is possible it could backfire on her but on the otherhand, it could also be advantageous for her in situations where it's difficult to express something by verbalizing it but she's able to express her issues in their entirety in text. Text gives you time to think about the conceptual whole and also gives time for emotions to subside. In the heat of the moment, not everyone expresses themselves clearly when caught up in the negative feedback loop when engaging a partner who's also being affected by emotion. It's also an opportunity for her SO to get different viewpoints on how third parties perceive their problems.
Stung Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 My husband knows I post on LS and he knows my username. I have told him he can look up my posts if he really wants to, so far as I know he never has. We both value privacy but not secrecy, if that makes any sense. Anyway my husband is not all that interested in a relationship sounding board, he has zero desire to post here himself. He's admitted to me that he's a little curious about what I write sometimes, but he's happy for me to have a little community apart from him and our everyday lives, and so far he's not interested in trespassing on it. I was already with him when I discovered LS, which probably makes some difference. If he reads my posts, he's mostly just going to be reading perspectives on our own relationship, stuff he already knows. Our communication is pretty open, so he doesn't stand to learn any crazy secrets or anything.
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