Mixed28 Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 I did not beg and plead I technically did everything right. But I thought hey what does it matter if you begged and pleaded. I did everything right and haven't sat down and talked to my ex or messaged each other sense the breakup which was 3 months ago and she has a new bf. Sure your dignity which is important but hey either way they are gone. So I wouldn't feel bad if you begged or pleaded. Screw them for leaving you in a perfect world we could control our emotions and we would not give a s*** about someone who does not want us. Honestly they no longer matter if they left you.
kaygato Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 I did not beg and plead I technically did everything right. But I thought hey what does it matter if you begged and pleaded. I did everything right and haven't sat down and talked to my ex or messaged each other sense the breakup which was 3 months ago and she has a new bf. Sure your dignity which is important but hey either way they are gone. So I wouldn't feel bad if you begged or pleaded. Screw them for leaving you in a perfect world we could control our emotions and we would not give a s*** about someone who does not want us. Honestly they no longer matter if they left you. I understand how you're feeling, but I think it's best to assume that once someone has initiated the breakup that it is over for good. You'll move on faster if you accept that it's over and don't hold on for a second chance. It's not so much about getting them back, but for our own mental health that it's best to go NC or LC. Also, although we shouldn't be hoping to get our ex's back, it does make us look childish and weak to our ex if we beg and plead. Take the high road and just leave them alone. Of course, it is easier said than done. I also did the begging/pleading and it just slowed the healing process for me. I think it's easier to do if you have a really good support system to help you through the difficult period.
Author Mixed28 Posted February 22, 2011 Author Posted February 22, 2011 I understand how you're feeling, but I think it's best to assume that once someone has initiated the breakup that it is over for good. You'll move on faster if you accept that it's over and don't hold on for a second chance. It's not so much about getting them back, but for our own mental health that it's best to go NC or LC. Also, although we shouldn't be hoping to get our ex's back, it does make us look childish and weak to our ex if we beg and plead. Take the high road and just leave them alone. Of course, it is easier said than done. I also did the begging/pleading and it just slowed the healing process for me. I think it's easier to do if you have a really good support system to help you through the difficult period. I did not beg and plead but if you did its not that big a deal just don't do it again if you get dumped again. I agree it is best to assume they are gone for good.
wmrjw82 Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Done the begging and pleading. Never works. Really ashamed of it. Everytime i've done it (yes, i've done it more than once )... in my mind I was always trying to show them that I care and how much I care so they could somehow understand or I could make them understand what they were losing. In reality, they are already gone (especially if its a woman dumper) emotionally from you so there is no point. Save your dignity.
Sugarkane Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 I also woner the same thing. My ex completely blinsided me an dumped and insulted me by text. All for no reason. I did everything right and it never worked. He never even contacted me once. Am I the exception to the rule?
Author Mixed28 Posted February 24, 2011 Author Posted February 24, 2011 I also woner the same thing. My ex completely blinsided me an dumped and insulted me by text. All for no reason. I did everything right and it never worked. He never even contacted me once. Am I the exception to the rule? What rule?
paperbag111 Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 Done the begging and pleading. Never works. Really ashamed of it....in my mind I was always trying to show them that I care and how much I care so they could somehow understand or I could make them understand what they were losing. In reality, they are already gone (especially if its a woman dumper) emotionally from you so there is no point. Save your dignity. +1 Did the same with my recent bitch of an ex for over 5 months. Mind you she was kind of stringing me along and with the state of mind I was in I was blinded to it. Could have save so much dignity and time. Guess I deserved it for being so weak and in love.
JrRos Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 I sort of begged, although I like to call it "insisted on another try" haha. Yeah, in the end life keeps going. Better things will come.
BelieveInUs Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 (edited) This is for Paperbag 111. I read your thread. I understand what you are going through. You just have to understand that it is not your fault if the woman was stringing you along. You are not weak because of falling in love. Whenever, someone string you along for the ride, this is ground for taking harsh and guarantee "kick in your ass" actions. Stringing people along is actually a form of mind games. I had the same thing done to me. I cannot review exactly what I did because after all this is the Loveshack.org. Basically, I follow the concept of Aikido. I return the force that the stupid ass ex did to me and I bounced it back to her and I increase the intensity ten folds. Whenever someone is playing mind games with you, that person automatically becomes your enemy. You do not do mind games on the people you love. The stupid ass ex did not bother me since I did that. I had to block her emails and I had to change my cell phone number. Mind game like stringing you along does four devastating things. First, you waste your precious time. For me, I am going to be 42 years old this May 16, 2011. Second, your efforts are wasted on a f**king as****e. Third, you waste your hard earn money. Fourth, it taxed on your emotion stability. It does not matter what is behind your ex or it does not matter what color she wears. If someone attacks you, do you think it might be a game? It is the same concept with Mind Games - Stringing you along. It should raise the red flag and sound the alarm. Do not feel sorry if you bounce it back to your ex and increase the intensity of the blow. Your ex deserve it for playing with your emotional stability and your mind. In my case, I can care less. I hope everything behind the ex collapse. Remember, Mind Games such as Stringing People Along are reserved for the enemies not for the people you love. Sometimes stupid as*****s like my ex needs to learn a dangerous lesson in Love. I have to go to sleep now. I feel old for having to think about this. I have a work out tomorrow. Take care, Paperbag111. Sincerely, BelieveInUs One of the Man Edited February 27, 2011 by BelieveInUs Correct two words.
dreamingoftigers Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 I was always hoping for that "one last option." the one that would work. The truth is that the first option would have worked if I wasn't the only one who wanted the relationship.
skydiveaddict Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 Honestly they no longer matter if they left you. True words
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