Ms. Joolie Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 I think there are three questions we have to answer before being comfortable in a romantic relationship: #1. "WHO IS THIS PERSON?" The initial question is asked upon evaluation of a person's profile and/or those initial conversations and meetings. How we see the other person tends to be the most important and deciding factor in the relationship. #2. "ARE WE COMPATIBLE?" The compatibility conversation begins immediately, however the answer can be delayed for years. This is the discovery process of a relationship, the intertwining of two individuals to see what dance is created. Lifestyles, communication styles, personalities, needs and desires are all evaluated. Some people have their answer right away and begin a romantic life together, others are more hesitant and allow the relationship to proceed with caution. #3. "HOW IS OUR SEX LIFE?" Powerful sex drives may decide this question quickly, even blurring out or silencing the other two. The chemistry, the romance and the skills of the lovers all play a factor here. When a person is secure and confident in the answering of his or her three questions, a successful romantic relationship will blossom and it is only up to the two lovebirds on where they want to go.
Cee Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 I would add a pre-test before diving into the dating realm... 1) Who am I? 2) What do I give to myself and others? (In other words, "Am I available?") Self-knowledge and a foundation of self-love is helpful in dating, especially with the little heart breaks it engenders.
january2011 Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 <tongue in cheek> OkCupid said the following three were the ones couples most often agreed upon by users who ended up in relationships: Do you like horror movies? Have you ever travelled around another country alone? Wouldn't it be fun to chuck it all and go live on a sailboat? http://abcnews.go.com/Technology/dating-site-okcupid-shares-revealing-date-questions/story?id=12874977&page=2 </tongue in cheek>
Author Ms. Joolie Posted February 22, 2011 Author Posted February 22, 2011 I would add a pre-test before diving into the dating realm... 1) Who am I? 2) What do I give to myself and others? (In other words, "Am I available?") Self-knowledge and a foundation of self-love is helpful in dating, especially with the little heart breaks it engenders. I love the idea of a 'pre-test' and think it would be great to do prior to every relationship. Although I will add that the Journey of Self is ongoing throughout our whole lives and having solid confidence in ourselves is not necessarily a prerequisite to a romantic relationship. People grow with people, need people to grow, and anyone can be in love. Maybe there are 3 questions to answer before being comfortable with ourselves, too! And lol january2011.
Author Ms. Joolie Posted February 22, 2011 Author Posted February 22, 2011 Ok, so now a question for YOU - What makes you feel safe and comfortable in a romantic relationship? Do you think it's important to feel safe and comfortable in a romantic relationship first in order for it to thrive? Why or why not?
Author Ms. Joolie Posted February 24, 2011 Author Posted February 24, 2011 no one wanted to play with me?
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