Ay Diesel T Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 So in my lab today, being my usual people person self. There's an older woman with whom I'm friends with there. I guess she watching me and the women around me. She waited after class and was like "You know, girl #1 likes you." Me: no way lol Her: trust me, remember last week when she gave you her number for school related stuff? Me: yeah Her: did she call you or text you about it? Me: no lol Her: guys... She didnt even give me her number and im her lab partner. Me: wow your right, lol. Her: you see, and you know else likes you? Girl #2. Me: gtfo! Her: yeah! She was watching you. And girl # 1 was watching you when you were joking around with the other girls in the class. That's why these women think you're a player. You're everywhere joking, laughing and smiling with all the women. Me: but im single! I'm not trying to hit on them just have fun! Her: yeah but when a girl likes you she's gonna get jealous, upset the write you off as a player. It was enlightening. I never really looked at it that way. I suppose if I saw a woman like that with all the guys I'd assume to. O_O. What's a guy to do? I'm naturally talkative and friendly with women. I smile alot and laugh, joke. I guess I'm a flirt by nature. And never looked into girl 1 that way. And she's cute, so is girl 2. Then theres the vietnamese and white one, girl 3. Who was watching me the whole time and repeatedly calling me over for help with her chemical calculations. Wow. So many choices, I'd have them all if I could. But I already unknowingly broke the ladies man rule number #1- don't try your luck with multiple women in the same vicinity, they're watching. Guess cause I wasn't really focusing on it I was carefree about it. Lol, this semester is gonna be crazy.
Author Ay Diesel T Posted February 22, 2011 Author Posted February 22, 2011 I love making women laugh and smile, even if they're not attractive. I won't go out of my way to talk to an unattractive woman but if I'm in a convo with them I always make them smile. Lol. I think alot has to do with my father and uncle. Two of the most prevalent men in my life, and both of them always were the life of the party, the jokster ladies man.
Mme. Chaucer Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 Hm. Here on LoveShack, you seem to make most of the women frown and grumble.
GooseChaser Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 Hm. Here on LoveShack, you seem to make most of the women frown and grumble. We're internet people, Mme. Chaucer, we don't count.
fishtaco Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 I love making women laugh and smile, even if they're not attractive. I won't go out of my way to talk to an unattractive woman but if I'm in a convo with them I always make them smile. Lol. I think alot has to do with my father and uncle. Two of the most prevalent men in my life, and both of them always were the life of the party, the jokster ladies man. Don't change anything. That's the way to do it. The most highly sought after women aren't the hot ones. They are the ones that are reasonably attractive but are extra friendly with all the guys. The gray area where it may be friendliness or it may be flirting is the right place to be, for both men and women. Ambiguity. Just the other day this East European chick at the gym started talking to me and my bud. She knows my bud but I've never talked to her. Once she started chatting, she automatically included me in their conversation, and at times would touch my arm and all that. I know what she's doing. I also know she's married. She's basically a female version of you. Ultra friendly to everyone. Plus the fact that she has a nice rack, I know all the guys at the gym that are not gay have the hots for her, even though she's past her prime. Yes, I've finally got a good look at her close up. The babushka bomb has already gone off, but she tries to hide it with her make up. But that's my point, her friendliness raises the interest level men have in her. Those women that complain you are a player? A few women that read LS will stay away from you. But most of them, as soon as you single them out and crank up the charm, they'll bite. The "taming of the playa" is difficult to resist.
Author Ay Diesel T Posted February 22, 2011 Author Posted February 22, 2011 Don't change anything. That's the way to do it. The most highly sought after women aren't the hot ones. They are the ones that are reasonably attractive but are extra friendly with all the guys. The gray area where it may be friendliness or it may be flirting is the right place to be, for both men and women. Ambiguity. Just the other day this East European chick at the gym started talking to me and my bud. She knows my bud but I've never talked to her. Once she started chatting, she automatically included me in their conversation, and at times would touch my arm and all that. I know what she's doing. I also know she's married. She's basically a female version of you. Ultra friendly to everyone. Plus the fact that she has a nice rack, I know all the guys at the gym that are not gay have the hots for her, even though she's past her prime. Yes, I've finally got a good look at her close up. The babushka bomb has already gone off, but she tries to hide it with her make up. But that's my point, her friendliness raises the interest level men have in her. Those women that complain you are a player? A few women that read LS will stay away from you. But most of them, as soon as you single them out and crank up the charm, they'll bite. The "taming of the playa" is difficult to resist. You think that's what it is? I'm very friendly. It helps people get comfortable around me. Maybe that's what it is, these women can find a comfort zone with me. Couple that with other physical attributes and voila?
kdark Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 I have yet to meet/date/screw a girl I've met in a bar, but at college, It's easy like Sunday morning. I have similar experiences in my classes, but in most of mine I am literally the only male in the class. And If I'm not, I'm the only non middle-aged, straight male in the class since the field I am getting into is mostly female workers.
Author Ay Diesel T Posted February 22, 2011 Author Posted February 22, 2011 Don't change anything. That's the way to do it. The most highly sought after women aren't the hot ones. They are the ones that are reasonably attractive but are extra friendly with all the guys. The gray area where it may be friendliness or it may be flirting is the right place to be, for both men and women. Ambiguity. Just the other day this East European chick at the gym started talking to me and my bud. She knows my bud but I've never talked to her. Once she started chatting, she automatically included me in their conversation, and at times would touch my arm and all that. I know what she's doing. I also know she's married. She's basically a female version of you. Ultra friendly to everyone. Plus the fact that she has a nice rack, I know all the guys at the gym that are not gay have the hots for her, even though she's past her prime. Yes, I've finally got a good look at her close up. The babushka bomb has already gone off, but she tries to hide it with her make up. But that's my point, her friendliness raises the interest level men have in her. Those women that complain you are a player? A few women that read LS will stay away from you. But most of them, as soon as you single them out and crank up the charm, they'll bite. The "taming of the playa" is difficult to resist. My ex, on her first date with me, was able to fall asleep in my arms. And she isn't even the type to be comfortable around people in general like that, she even said herself that she felt she's known me for years which is why she trusted herself to be unconscious around me. The last woman I date STR, she also was able to fall asleep in my arms, a thing she said she never does unless her and the guy have been together for a while. Thing in common both these women have told me is that I'm definitely an *******, but that it works for me, and that I'm "honest and upfront" about it, so they know that I'm an honest guy, and mean what I say. They also both said that I can get away with being an *******, cause I can "make people laugh" with it and apparently help them get comfortable enough to enjoy themselves. Who knows. Maybe it is charm, or swagger. Just surprised that even when I'm not trying, it's apparently there. Why do you think that my approach is the way to do it though? This is obviously part of the reason why women I'm involved with get insecure. That can't be a good thing if I'm looking for a LTR. I agree Kdark, the college setting is pretty laid back, easy. My kind of vibe. I'd say physically, I'm probably in the best shape in the class, but there's other good looking guys there. One is just as outgoing, if not, more so than I. The others, not so much.
deebeechrisyo Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 You are physically attractive and you are also outgoing/able to start and hold a conversation. That's all you need man. There's no need to be a jerk/******* here, in your situation being nice and funny will put you miles ahead.
SmileFace Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 (edited) = I am literally the only male in the class. multiple women in the same vicinity, . What are you guys studying to be , nurses? I tend to be the only female in my major based classes. Edited February 22, 2011 by SmileFace
Author Ay Diesel T Posted February 22, 2011 Author Posted February 22, 2011 What are you guys studying to be , nurses? I tend to be the only female in my major based classes. Going Pre-Med. A couple classes are actually pre-reqs for nursing students as well.
SmileFace Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 Going Pre-Med. A couple classes are actually pre-reqs for nursing students as well. Oh - that makes sense A former class mate of mine was complaining about the lack of fish in the class. I told him he should have been studying Health instead of Computers - this just proves it - lol. Ok back on topic -Smile out !
Author Ay Diesel T Posted February 22, 2011 Author Posted February 22, 2011 Oh - that makes sense A former class mate of mine was complaining about the lack of fish in the class. I told him he should have been studying Health instead of Computers - this just proves it - lol. Ok back on topic -Smile out ! You never replied lol. Ouch.
fishtaco Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 Why do you think that my approach is the way to do it though? This is obviously part of the reason why women I'm involved with get insecure. That can't be a good thing if I'm looking for a LTR. The way you're doing it, your options are open. You can choose from a larger pool, because you're out there, being out going, being fun, and attracting a bunch of women. Then once you get into a LTR, it'll become something different anyway. Single life is very different from LTR life. You just have to learn to manage it. People that are good at attracting women aren't necessarily good at relationships, because they are two different skill sets. I personally have a hard time transitioning quickly. It's a completely different mentality. Just like people that have been in a relationship for a long time suddenly get dropped into the dating scene, they have a hard time getting traction. The transition either way is difficult. I'm trying to extend the "dating" time and see if that gives me enough time to make the transition. But anyway, no matter how good you are at LTR, it has to start with attraction. That's step one. If you can't handle step one, you may be alone for a long time, no matter how awesome you are at LTR.
SmileFace Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 You never replied lol. Ouch. Wasn't you the one that said - if women are faced with an oppourtunity , blah blah blah, something about interest , blah blah blah, something player- blah blah blah! Didn't like were the conversation was leading, yet I may have over read - so I left it alone.No harm ,no foul
LuckyLady13 Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 What's a guy to do? I'm naturally talkative and friendly with women. I smile alot and laugh, joke. What's a guy to do? Enjoy it! You're a social person. And I'm assuming you're single? You're just acting like a single, social person. Nothing wrong with that and if you're having that much fun, don't get into a relationship until it wears off and gets boring. When I was single, I was exactly the same way. Talkative, friendly, joking around with people and things were great. When I'm in a relationship though (like now), I really tone it down. There's no sense in making the person I'm with feel insecure (learned that the hard way a few years ago). I'm still the same person as I was when I was single but just a toned down version. If I didn't tone it down, it would give certain men (not all) the impression I'm interested in them when I'm not. Usually people who aren't real social don't understand that just because a person is friendly, polite, smiles a lot and likes to have some fun...that doesn't mean they're interested in a relationship! I've been STALKED by guys who didn't get it. Hearing things like "I saw the way you smiled at me" and it's like...a smile is now the way to get into relationships these days?!? Since when? Social people totally get it and don't expect a thing but I've run into my fair share of people who don't get that happy and friendly doesn't mean "I'm interested in you". One other thing - There are people who are at such a low point in their lives that when they see happy people who like to joke around, they try to latch on like a disease! Being real social and friendly made bartending a lot of fun for me but there's some people that see a smiling face and think "I want that!" and try to grab onto you with both hands. Have fun!
mo mo Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 Sometimes at work, random women come and sit on my lap and start grinding me. One of them even began taking her clothes off until her husband told her to stop. What am I supposed to do? I'm just a friendly guy!!!
Jannah Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Sometimes at work, random women come and sit on my lap and start grinding me. One of them even began taking her clothes off until her husband told her to stop. What am I supposed to do? I'm just a friendly guy!!! Heehee. Mo Mo funny.
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