Nkognito Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 It's been since early September since the break up of a 2 month relationship. I know that seems light weight to some but for those two months, we spent more time together and moved incredibly fast. I have since moved on and started dating another women who I am more friend feeling towards to then anything else. Currently have someone coming over tonight maybe to watch a movie or more. My problem is lately the places I go to, I keep running into her friends. I went to a country bar that is really big on the day before the superbowl and as I am walking through the densly packed crowd, some guy extends his hand. It was her friend Nick and I could have sworn I saw her there with some guy that did not compliment my appearance at all if I must be modest. I did not ask about her and just talked about how the place was packed with people and hard to dance. But when he parted ways, I instantly got quite a few girls to dance with me and of course noticed that saw me dancing. I text her the next day about meeting her friend but got no response. Sadly in my line of work I have a good memory so even if her phone number is no longer in mine, I still can recite it but I try not to keep it in my head. So last weekend I was out at another country club at least 30 miles or more from inner city and lo and behold I run into another of her friends who is not so much of a friend but someone who she plays some game called Bunco with at a friends house. I had been drinking and let the girl know that her and I are no longer together. I was with another girl there who has been teaching me new dance moves and I am sure she saw us dancing. Texas is by far not a small state and running into her friends in the oddest of places is just a little unsettling because I would have not recognized the guy had he not stopped me and I would have never said anything to the girl if she did not recognize me. I almost want to text her and tell her to ask her friends not to talk to me but that seems a little harsh. I guess I know I still have feelings for her. But the more I try to move on. the more something keeps her fresh in my mind. I just don't know if I should send a email letting her know that I dont want to keep being reminded of something I lost out on by having her friends talk to me when I really only knew them for the time we went out. What are your thoughts LS?
smudge21 Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 Funny reading that as I've often thought the same occasionally. I'm not one to preach to anyone about destiny and higher forces at work and all that, but sometimes things have happened which seem to push me in a direction, especially when it comes to dealing with an ex. It's like I'm being told to keep on fighting, don't give up, that sort of thing. I know a lot of it is just circumstance, but as you stated above, it does appear very unusual. I guess it's totally upto you on how you interpret it; do you see it as guidance to try and get back with your ex, or as nothing at all. Just coincidence. I personally like to just see what happens, don't plan or aim for anything when something like this occurs. Just do whatever it was I was already doing. If (and note the word if there) there is some force at work (hey, we're all religious in some ways) and it does want you to do a certain thing, then just let it run its course. However, don't focus on it. Carry on living your life the best you can.
Author Nkognito Posted February 23, 2011 Author Posted February 23, 2011 You're right, carrying on is the best I can do but I just don't know these days. It's a lost cause anyways, she won't answer my last two texts which were a week or more apart from each other. I have not sent anything to her for a few weeks because I got the response she wanted to give me and that was complete silence. I just hate feeling like I am kept on a shelf. It would be nice for her to just say "I was seeing someone else" or "I am seeing someone". This would kill what ever still keeps her alive in me. I am so ready to just move on but not knowing does not help. I guess this is the back burner frustration I have.
smudge21 Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Yeah not knowing can be terrible, but sometimes you just have to accept it and try to move on. I really wish I'd fought harder for my ex and talked it all through with her but it never happened so I was left not knowing and just walking away. I'm in a better place now and can accept that she's kinda' still part of my life (every now and then we have to speak due to work and stuff). Was funny that I sent this other girl an anonymous Valentines gift and straight away my ex text me to ask if it was me that sent it - she knows I'm the romantic type. I didn't reply, so a few days later, I get a few more texts; just her way of seeing if I'm still alive. I replied out of kindness, but nothing special. I thought she was definitely the one, but now I see differently... the one is still out there somewhere... waiting...
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