roman_pavluchenko Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 i started seeing this girl at school, we were both 17 turning 18 and she seemed like a really nice person as she was helping year 8s and such, and she was really pretty. I began to "like" her without knowing her, and starting to see her amongst my group of friends. After 6 months, and a few parties i had started to get to know her, her friends would tell her how she could be a model and i followed up on this and complimented her, and finally asked her out on leavers. I was her first ever boyfriend, she was my second girlfriend, she was really shy and innocent, and we shared our first kiss under the stars on the foreshore. We had some really great times, and i was happy, but use to worry quite a lot about losing her because i thought she was too good for me, but she would always reassure me that i wouldnt lose her and not to worry so much. She was afraid to kiss me in front of friends, and i think she liked the idea of being in a group rather than alone, but i didnt mind i just liked to be with her. It would bother me when she would take a while to reply on facebook, if she wouldnt text me back or call me or anything, and i brought it up once and she apologised and said she just consider it a big deal. After a few little arguments she dumped me out of nowhere, i didnt expect it all, exept for the possible hint the night before where she suddenly went offline on facebook saying catch you tomorrow. (no x's!!!!) She just said that she didnt feel the same anymore but i was the sweetest and nicest guy she had ever met. I was crushed and felt lost/empty for the next few days and began to cry occasionally, i tried going to her house and telling her how i felt and that i know where i went wrong and we could fix it but she said she couldnt go back to the way things were and we were better off this way, i decided to go on a holiday for a week, and when i came back i heard nothing from her, and its been 3 weeks and shown no sign of reconciliation. I always wanted to tell her i loved her and i always tried to make things special - kissing her on the neck when we werent talking, stroking her hand playing with her fingers etc, i always wanted to be with her, but i just couldnt do it because i didnt think she felt the same. Ive started to let go recently, but now i not only think of the good times we had, but i think more of the stuff i wanted to do with her such as take her out to dinner, like i had planned for valentines but of course we werent together anymore, but also now ive just been thinking about have sexual relations with her, we were both virgins and i wanted her to be my first and i cant stand the thought of her being with someone else, do you think i actually loved her, or was it just lust, i still see her with my group and she sometimes talks to me but i find it almost impossible to look her in the face. My previous relationship lasted 8 months but it didnt hurt me at all when we broke up, because we both agreed we had drifted and that we were better off as friends, but we did go further than i did with my latest ex and we just seemed to care about eachother a lot more. Did i actually love my new girlfriend, or does it just hurt so badly because she ended it so suddenly and i wasnt ready? 3 weeks and i still feel the pain...i know she probably didnt love me, this was evident since she didnt tell me what was going wrong and the little things such as not putting love hearts in texts or so when i did, and 1 month into the relationship she was at an all girls party and i was going to a big party somewhere else, i decided i would be late for my party to pop in and see her because it was new years, i knew the hosts parents, i went and talked to the dad, asked him if it was ok if i popped in for a minute just to wish my girl happy new years, she was pissed off at me saying i crashed the party and made her look bad. Please, do you think it was love, or just lust, im confused about these emotions and i need to know if its worth fighting for or letting it go, im just worried i wont find someone else.
saddestguynow Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 Look mate...sometimes love is really complicated....After reading your long post,i do feel that u are into her...but she's just not into you... If you really love her and care for her,just go and tell her all of your feelings and give it your best shot...but if she rejects you or if things dont work your way,accept the situation with grace and get going with your life...You really cant force someone to love you or like you..For women,sometimes the spark is just isnt there...So give your best,and go on with full guts...but if it doesnt work out,have the guts to come out of it also....-advice by someone who has been rejected 3 weeks ago by a girl who also liked me the way you're describing it...best of luck!
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