paiger Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 CAN SOMEONE PLEASE SHED SOME LIGHT ON THIS SITUATION? it's been a month since my ex and I broke up and we've been LC, and i've recently found out that him and his other ex (right before me) have been seeing eachother lately... mind you, this ex even tried getting him back while we were still together but he didn't get back with her. he cut her out of his life, and they didn't keep contact at all (i know this for sure). We broke up because long distance was getting way too hard....it led to all our fights and un-needed drama. I mean it's not for everyone right. (we use to live in the same area for a while). i know things would be so much different if we lived in the same area. Now that we've broken up though, he is going back to her... i don't understand why while him and i were in a relationship, he told me he hated her, he never wanted to be in a relationship with a girl like that ever again. she cheated on him and that is why they broke up. he knew i hated this girl. they aren't officially back in a relationship, however they are seeing eachother. was i just a rebound? or is he rebounding WITH her to get over me? does he actually like her? so many questions racing through my mind... can anyone shed some light on the situation?
poorguy Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 How long were you two together? How long were they together? Did you live together?
PegNosePete Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 Now that we've broken up though, he is going back to her... i don't understand why Same reason anyone does this kind of thing. Because he wants to. while him and i were in a relationship, he told me he hated her, he never wanted to be in a relationship with a girl like that ever again. I guess that would be a lie, then. Or he changed his mind. was i just a rebound? or is he rebounding WITH her to get over me? does he actually like her? so many questions racing through my mind... can anyone shed some light on the situation? This kind of question is irrelevant. Forget him and move on.
valdeetz1 Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 It might be that he was rebounding with you. Or he just never got over her. .Only he really knows The fact of the matter is anyone whose been cheated on by an ex isnt going to sit there and tell their new partner they're still hung up on their partner and how great they were with the exception of the infidelity. The nice move on's here become speaches about self respect and what not in the real world. The thing I've read about rebounds is most generally dont last long (3-6 months, maybe almost a year) that they are constantly downing the previous partner and putting the rebound on a pedistal ( constantly comparing, there for constantly thinking about ex, positive or negative ectect) I suppose if I was to get in a realtionship now, I would probably bad mouth my ex to my new partner, he did after all leave me for another girl after so long together. However...I still love my ex. And I wouldnt tell my new partner that I dont think. I suppose thats why I know I'm not ready for a new relationship. But I will tell you that your relationship, whatever the purpose, is by all terms 'over' The best advice I've seen here I will give to you: Take it worst case scenario- that they will stay together, get married and have 2.5 kids. This way you arent clinging to any false hope or denial. They may work out, they may not, but if you take care of you, make a better person of you. Dont worry about them or let them bother you- easier said then done, I know. Trust me I'm still worrying over my ex. But its a little less every day. This doesnt mean you did anything wrong in your relationship- but look hard at it, see what was wrong, and if you can fix it on your end any. This way weather its a new relationship or not, you go in a stronger link for a new chain? eh....or something. If you search the threads for something about rebound relationships, it might make for good reading and help you feel a little better? I know reading on here keeps me sane these days ^ ^
Author paiger Posted February 22, 2011 Author Posted February 22, 2011 Thanks guys, especially "valdeetz1" for taking the time to reply something pretty long haha. I guess i'll never really know... and the only thing I could do is move on.
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