roman_pavluchenko Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 (edited) Theres a lot more to it but im going to do it in bullet form, but basically i was dumped by my girlfriend out of the blue, we had a few little arguments on two occasions which we agreed we could forget about as we were both in the wrong, and i still loved her. *We are both 18 *I was her first boyfriend *We're apart of a group who are close friends *We dated for 2 months What she said: *She has been thinking about it to the point where she feels sick *She didnt feel the same anymore *I wasnt ther person she thought i was *We were better off this way *I would find someone better than her *She would introduce me to people at uni *She has learnt that she needs to be around more often for future relationships *She cant go back to the way things were *She wanted me to stay at her house so we could talk like friends. *I was the nicest and sweetest guy she had ever met and she still wanted me in her life I tried to tell her how i feel, and that i knew what i was doing wrong and could change but she said it couldnt happen. What her best friend said, 3 weeks later, after i told her i was going to avoid her. *She is still cut up over the break-up *She cant get me out of her head *She wasnt happy with the relationship, which is why she had to do it *I was too clingy, but this didnt make sense to her best friend, because it didnt seem like it at all *If i tried to chase her i would just get even more hurt than i already was *She did really want to still be friends *She didnt think i was "the one" I deleted her from facebook after a few weeks, since i tried talking to her just asking whats up and she ignored me, and i got rid of everything we ever had to do with eachother Her today: *When we hang out in a group, despite the fact that i try to ignore her she talks to me sometimes *When shes right there, and im talking to her friends, i can see out the corner of my eye her staring at me *Laughs at things i say *I offered to take her to uni with her best friend and i via text, she kept saying thanks but she needed to practise taking the train (we gave her a lift a few days ago) I do really want her back, and i think these are my options. 1) No contact with her, hard though since we still hang out in a group, but maybe she'll realise that the good things in our relationship were greater than the bad things, risks any possibility of friendship but does she deserve my friendship after i trusted her 100% and she broke my heart? 2) Be friends with her, dont talk to her for hours on facebook or text her/call her, just talk to her when we catch up in a group and maybe she'll see im the same person she fell for, risks the chance of being put in the "friend" zone. 3) In a few more weeks (its already been 3 weeks since we broke up) as her out to coffee, if she agrees, ask her what went wrong in the relationship and if she had any feelings for me anymore we could try work it out, risks the effect that No contact may have had, she may not agree to come out for coffee at all and i'll probably get upset, if she doesnt want to talk about it it'l be ridiculously awkward. Thanks for reading, can you give me any opinions, or other options i could take? Edited February 22, 2011 by roman_pavluchenko
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