JaneDoe35 Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 In August 2009 I experienced the pain and despair that comes with infidelity and the loss of a marriage. My child was heartbroken also. I truly didn't think I could survive. I hated waking up - if I ever slept that is. The man I had loved for so long had destroyed me. Or so I thought. Turns out I have survived and survived well. Naturally there have been incredible drama's during this period but the wonderful support of my family and friends has helped get me through. I filed for divorce and felt a huge weight off when I had really 'let go'. I am still confused about what has happened and where I am headed but I am really happy. I have been blessed to have met some great men but am not yet ready to fully give my all to one person. In time that will change. I have totally forgiven my ex-husband and will always be there for him. We have a child together and I want peace. I love him and he loves me. I would never want to reconcile though. He is depressed and can't seem to find whatever it is he is looking for. He is full of regret too. I wanted to say thanks to all the great people here on LoveShack! You are the best! I don't expect anyone to read all my posts but if you have time - read a couple of them to see how I was. I can barely believe that they were written by me. JD
Bluebelle38 Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 Hi Jane, Just want to say how lovely it was to read your thread, to see how you got through the pain and came out the other side. I am so pleased you have got yourself to a good place and it so nice to see these threads because they are usually all quite upsetting. I've finally let go of and on/off ex. it actually happened to me yesterday. We were in brief contact again (just text we were long distance) and I realised that I had put him on a pedestal, questioned whether I was good enough. This obviously really ruined my self esteem. I realise now that what he offered wasn't good enough for me. I sent that to him and have no need to ever contact him again. I feel as if I have turned a big corner so was really happy to read your thread. Well done on getting through it. I'm australian as well, although live in Ireland now.I wish you all the very best
2.50 a gallon Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 JaneDoe So glad to hear things are going better for you. It takes time, and trust me, a new he will appear and it will be so much better than you had in the past
Duckduckgoose Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 I like reading the "life after divorce" threads
Author JaneDoe35 Posted February 25, 2011 Author Posted February 25, 2011 Hi Jane, Just want to say how lovely it was to read your thread, to see how you got through the pain and came out the other side. I am so pleased you have got yourself to a good place and it so nice to see these threads because they are usually all quite upsetting. I've finally let go of and on/off ex. it actually happened to me yesterday. We were in brief contact again (just text we were long distance) and I realised that I had put him on a pedestal, questioned whether I was good enough. This obviously really ruined my self esteem. I realise now that what he offered wasn't good enough for me. I sent that to him and have no need to ever contact him again. I feel as if I have turned a big corner so was really happy to read your thread. Well done on getting through it. I'm australian as well, although live in Ireland now.I wish you all the very best It takes courage to let go - but it is the most wonderful feeling. 'Time is like a wave that washes all the pain away'. Thanks for your post! You have done it too!
Author JaneDoe35 Posted February 25, 2011 Author Posted February 25, 2011 JaneDoe So glad to hear things are going better for you. It takes time, and trust me, a new he will appear and it will be so much better than you had in the past Hey 2.50 - you are so right....I now know that the end of a relationship can actually be an incredible learning experience for both parties involved. I now thank him for giving me the opportunity to grow - and have loads of fun too!
Author JaneDoe35 Posted February 25, 2011 Author Posted February 25, 2011 I like reading the "life after divorce" threads I never thought I would ever start a thread like this one.....
willowthewisp Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 In August 2009 I experienced the pain and despair that comes with infidelity and the loss of a marriage. My child was heartbroken also. I truly didn't think I could survive. I hated waking up - if I ever slept that is. The man I had loved for so long had destroyed me. Or so I thought. Turns out I have survived and survived well. Naturally there have been incredible drama's during this period but the wonderful support of my family and friends has helped get me through. I filed for divorce and felt a huge weight off when I had really 'let go'. I am still confused about what has happened and where I am headed but I am really happy. I have been blessed to have met some great men but am not yet ready to fully give my all to one person. In time that will change. I have totally forgiven my ex-husband and will always be there for him. We have a child together and I want peace. I love him and he loves me. I would never want to reconcile though. He is depressed and can't seem to find whatever it is he is looking for. He is full of regret too. I wanted to say thanks to all the great people here on LoveShack! You are the best! I don't expect anyone to read all my posts but if you have time - read a couple of them to see how I was. I can barely believe that they were written by me. JD I'm glad to hear things are going well for you. I think the bolded part helps a lot? When they take some responsibility I'm imagining (as mine hasn't) that helps you to move forward because you aren't constantly questioning your own self worth?
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