Sugarkane Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 I can't seem to find anyone my age that wants more than a fling. I'm 24 and it just seems guys my age are fickle like my ex, use you until the next girl comes along or use you for sex and are not even interested in getting to know you. I want to more than just sex with someone. I haven't a guy my age that wants the same as me. Why is this?
musemaj11 Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 I can't seem to find anyone my age that wants more than a fling. I'm 24 and it just seems guys my age are fickle like my ex, use you until the next girl comes along or use you for sex and are not even interested in getting to know you. I want to more than just sex with someone. I haven't a guy my age that wants the same as me. Why is this? Because if they dont use you, you will use them.
blackmagik Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 Hate to break it to you but older guys aren't terribly different. There are guys in their 30s that still play this game. Not all guys are like this though. I myself am definitely not, but I know of many that are - some of whom are my friends. I would break the mold and while dating hold out on sex until the guy truly gets to know you. If he is interesting in you for you he will stick around, if he just wants sex or the next girl he wont be willing to wait.
Hules Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 Generalization of a age group is a generalization I'm 24 as well and I am looking for a serious relationship with the right person, I don't do one night stands and don't sleep with others until I get to know them. Maybe you are looking in the wrong places? Going after the wrong types? who knows. Before you can say there are no guys like that where I live. Im from Melbourne too
Author Sugarkane Posted February 22, 2011 Author Posted February 22, 2011 Generalization of a age group is a generalization I'm 24 as well and I am looking for a serious relationship with the right person, I don't do one night stands and don't sleep with others until I get to know them. Maybe you are looking in the wrong places? Going after the wrong types? who knows. Before you can say there are no guys like that where I live. Im from Melbourne too Thanks for the replys. I thought dating a friend of a friend would be easier, but I was wrong. The guy ended up doing a number on me and dumping me really callously. And I took it slow aswell and I still got burned! So frustrating
EasyHeart Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 I'm a little confused by your question. Do you currently refuse to date anyone who is older than you? I find that odd. Most women date (and certainly marry) men who are older than they are. I agree with others that just because a man is older than 24 does not automatically mean the he is mature. But many people do mature as they get older. I feel pretty confident that a larger percentage of 35 year old men are mature than the perecentage of 25 year olds. But not every 35 year old (or 45 or 55 or 65 year old) is automatically mature. If I were you, I would certainly suggest that you stay open to dating men who are older than you. Why limit yourself to only men your own age?
mtber75 Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 Hate to break it to you but older guys aren't terribly different. There are guys in their 30s that still play this game. Not all guys are like this though. I myself am definitely not, but I know of many that are - some of whom are my friends. I would break the mold and while dating hold out on sex until the guy truly gets to know you. If he is interesting in you for you he will stick around, if he just wants sex or the next girl he wont be willing to wait. Yeah I didn't mature until 30s:)
Cee Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 It doesn't hurt to be open to anyone regardless of age. I have dated older and I have dated younger and age doesn't matter too much. Right now I am dating a 24 year old (I'm 41) and it's going really well. Age will probably become a factor in the future, but for now I am enjoying our relationship. It's important not to condescend to someone based on their age. It can be hurtful and not productive to the relationship. An example of that is "You look good for your age." Or, "you are sooo young, like a baby." Good luck and I know plenty of men my age (40+) who have huge crushes on women your age. But you may need to show interest first to give the nod for them to pursue.
Ms. Joolie Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 You are at the ripe age of 24, so lots of men are going to want to take advantage. Also in your age group, men are in college, just out of college, or busy starting their careers. Perhaps a lot of young men aren't looking to settle down at this point, but many do want a woman by their side. Be clear on who you are, what you want and what you give in a relationship. Keep your focus on that and you'll be open and available for your match. Whether you want to keep in your age range or go older is entirely up to you.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 Dated older men, they're just as sleazy, if not more. Don't focus on age, focus on a person's personality, traits, and his goals in life. If he tells you his hobby includes community volunteer service, walking his dog, etc chances are this guy is more settled than the ones that barhops on weekends. Every relationship is risky even more so if you're not aware of the person you're in a relationship with.
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