HayleytheHoldenfan Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 (edited) Hi everyone, I've been talking to a guy online that I met on a dating site for the past few weeks, we met in person for the first time last weekend. He certainly seems very sweet, regularly giving out compliments and seems really respectful. He was very chatty and easy to talk to and I was just myself the whole time really. A fair bit of laughing too. We seemed to get along quite well, but I think he would get along well with anyone. We met at a semi local pub at about 1pm and stayed down there til a bit before 6pm and the headed into our main city as I had a workmate's farewell dinner at a pub in the city. He showed me where it was and everything and he was going to come along for a bit but his Nan had been sick all day and he really needed to get home to see how she was doing. He first found out about it around 2 hours after we met at the pub and I did say he could go if he wanted to, but he didn't and he said that there were others who could look after her for the time being. No compliments or anything were given etc, though it was only a first date so I really had no idea what to expect. He said that he needs more than one date/meeting to work out what he wants, and to make sure the girl isn't fake or whatever I guess. He did give me two hugs when he was leaving though, I dunno if he was just being friendly or what. He did say he would text me later last night, letting me know how his Nan was and he didn't, until I texted him. We do have a mutual friend who asked him what he thought etc and she told me what he said: "Went really well, Hayley is a lovely girl and has a great personality that I can get along well with". I sent him a text earlier asking how his Nan was and that I had a good and fun time and we should do something again soon if he wants to. His response: "Was a nice day yesterday. Thankyou". A few people think that his response where he didn't say how his Nan was and how he didn't answer about catching up meant that he wasn't interested, so as a joke/for a bit of fun I put in a status on Facebook "He's just not that into you" He came onto chat later that night and this is what was said: Him: Hey what's the status (in regard to what I had on there) Me: Well... I know it's early days and all but I interpreted your message from earlier today as that you just want to be friends... which is totally okay, I understand. You didn't say if you wanted to see me again and you didn't say how your nan was Him: I am sorry, when I sent message I was not feeling well and kept it short. Nan is feeling better but its me who now feels crook and would be lovely too meet you again I had a lovely day yesterday thank you so so much Me: It's okay, I wasn't sure whether to message you or not... I thought about giving you space or whatever for a day or so but I wanted to make sure your nan was ok etc. I'm used to assuming the worst, sorry Him: Thank you for caring really kind and sweet of you and feel free to message me at anytime you like. If I don't reply its cause I am either sleeping or busy. Hugs Me: Like I said yesterday I don't know how it works and while I understand that you need space etc, as we all do at some point, I absolutely HATE not knowing what someone thinks of me. I would rather someone be brutally honest and insult me than to lie to me Him: I am honest and I think you are beautiful the way you are with a cool personality Does he seem like he's interested? Sorry for the long post and thanks for the advice. Edited February 22, 2011 by HayleytheHoldenfan
JaneDoe35 Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 Hard to tell....if you continue to see him his actions will show you what he thinks of you. It is hard to really tell via FB chat. Also if I were you I would not post anything else on your status which may relate to your 'relationship' with him. Especially anything that could be perceived as negative. Good luck.....I do think he likes you!!!!
LondonS Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 thats too much especially the whole Facebook status thing...
refurb Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 You're coming on too strong. The appropriate way to deal with this would have been to tell him "I'd be interested in seeing you again, let me know" and leave it at that. Judge him by his actions, not his words. RF
Author HayleytheHoldenfan Posted February 23, 2011 Author Posted February 23, 2011 Thanks heaps for all the tips everyone. I was definitely beginning to think that I was trying to move too fast. I like to go slow too, but every now and then I'll have a bit of brain fade and try to rush things, get a bit impatient etc. I did say to the guy that I am pretty inexperienced and I'm not always sure how to go about things and he is okay with that. You can really only see what happens.
refurb Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 Just remember, if he's the right guy, he'll like you no matter how things go (within reason, obviously). RF
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